the pullback i've been hearing about

[bigneil]

Brad Browning gets it right:

Matt Cross gets it right:

Chris from SuperFitMen gets it right:

 

[Dash Riprock]

But, really! Come on! If a girl really likes you she NEVER pulls back. I've dated lots of women. ONLY the ones who DID NOT have true, high interest in me would pull back. Whether she does this as a test or because she's not interested, who needs her crap? It doesn't matter. I say NEXT her and find a girl who really likes you. Life is too short to waste your time with a girl who "pulls back", unless like Jake said, she is truly busy. Otherwise it's a lot more fun to have a girl who really likes you. And trust me, if she really likes you, She WILL NOT "pull back".

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This is totally false.

 

[Floydispink01]

This might be true when she first meets you and it comes to getting your first date, but 2-3 months in, this is absolutely false in the relationship stage. Every girl, every time at some point will pull away, if only to test you. Women are moody. Women are not 100% predictable forever. Their feelings change like the weather.

Now, the dark side of the pullback. The pullback means she caught feelings for someone else.

The pullback means she isn't the kind of girl who can have multiple lovers at once, so it's a good sign. She goes from being really into you to being really into another guy so there is a huge difference.

Corey Wayne gets it right:

Chris Canwell gets it right:

Craig Kenneth gets it right:

Good video's Neill.

The Craig Kenneth one was particularly solid. Seems so obvious not to chase but men get complacent, panic and freak out when things don't go as they expect them too.

I particularly like the line - 'you should always expect the girl to lose interest in you at some point'. Never thought of that before.

 

[bigneil]

@Floydispink01, my girl left me for her middle school sweetheart in June and I walked away. One of the toughest things I ever did, leaving her within hours. But it toughened me up, I lost weight and she came back to me 7 weeks later (we went 14 weeks without seeing eachother). She was totally sexually frustrated (for all of you saying young women want young men). Now she keeps saying she just wants to make me happy.

Some here would argue that I'm in a weaker position but I disagree. I am in a MUCH stronger position. We withstood the test of time. Back in the 1980's women had a saying "If you love something set it free, and if it comes back, love it forever". This is what they meant. They mean "Give me the space to choose you".

 

[Floydispink01]

@Floydispink01, my girl left me for her middle school sweetheart in June and I walked away. One of the toughest things I ever did, leaving her within hours. But it toughened me up, I lost weight and she came back to me 7 weeks later (we went 14 weeks without seeing eachother). She was totally sexually frustrated (for all of you saying young women want young men). Now she keeps saying she just wants to make me happy.

Some here would argue that I'm in a weaker position but I disagree. I am in a MUCH stronger position. We withstood the test of time. Back in the 1980's women had a saying "If you love something set it free, and if it comes back, love it forever". This is what they meant. They mean "Give me the space to choose you".

Good to hear. I can definitely resonate with the toughened up part. That's the beauty of anything that can hurt you or make you disappointed - It toughens and enlightens you.

 

[marmel75]

Could be a lot of things...an ex reentered the picture, you didn't move fast enough for her liking, she met someone she liked more than you, etc, etc...

It's not worth worrying about...just find and cultivate other women and let her figure out what she wants to do...you have better things to do than worry about what any one woman wants to do

 

[wifehunter]

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