Naughty Ninja
Banned
The problem with "falling in love at first sight" so quickly, is usually that you CAN'T actually fall in love with the actual person in front of you, you are falling in love with your pre-conceived imaginations about them, and then rushing RIGHT past the real person when you are with them. That's why dudes need to learn to be cautious about "love at first sight."
The simplest thing to do to try to do a good job of "slowing down," isn't to plan specific "slow down" activities, or to date someone else, or even to schedule extra 'not-together' time.
What you need to be doing, is changing your OUTPUTS to INPUTS. Focus on listening to her when you are together or conversing, and not on how wonderful she makes you feel. When you find yourself thinking about how great the future will be if she sticks around, take a deep breath and shift to the present, and how to coordinate with what she's actually dealing with here and now.
The more REALITY you can get into with her, the more likely things are to work out, even though it also means seeing that she isn't as perfect as you might think now.
The simplest thing to do to try to do a good job of "slowing down," isn't to plan specific "slow down" activities, or to date someone else, or even to schedule extra 'not-together' time.
What you need to be doing, is changing your OUTPUTS to INPUTS. Focus on listening to her when you are together or conversing, and not on how wonderful she makes you feel. When you find yourself thinking about how great the future will be if she sticks around, take a deep breath and shift to the present, and how to coordinate with what she's actually dealing with here and now.
The more REALITY you can get into with her, the more likely things are to work out, even though it also means seeing that she isn't as perfect as you might think now.
