"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The problem is not that girls don't know how to love, but rather...

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The problem is not that girls don't know how to love, but rather girls don't know how to be grateful.

In general, men are active, women are passive.

To love someone is to be active - that is masculinity

To be loved, or more specifically, to be grateful - that is femininity

The problem is not so much that girls don't know how to love, it is that girls don't know how to be grateful for what her bf/husband/ or even men in general do for her.

A prototypical example is the feminists. They show absolutely no gratitude towards the sacrifices, innovations, and hard work, that men in general have poured out. And thus they become very unattractive in our eyes.

I think most of us guys would willingly work hard for the girl we care about, IF ONLY she would show gratitude for what we have done.

The disillusionment guys face is that they work so hard for the girl, and the girl is simply unappreciative and starts to complain about other things. Then we think: 'Why bother?' and then we think: 'Ok, whoever puts less effort in the relationship always wins.' And then the downward spiral starts.

A good litmus test to use on girls, is to see if she is grateful for what others do for her. For example, if a waiter provides extra good service, is she grateful or does she just act like a spoiled brat?

I've learned that gratitude is a beautiful character trait and I definitely need to screen girls on this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think you're on to something. The service occupation litmus test is always a biggie for me. There's nothing that chaps my hide more that a woman who is rude to hostesses, waiters, etc. without the slightest provocation. It reveals a lot about her sense of entitlement, and about her recognition of the Golden Rule.
 
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Have to agree here on most everything. My wife is grateful for the things I bring to the relationship. Steady job, killer home, fun, respectful, etc. She shows her appreciation in many ways. Get's up and makes me breakfast every morning. Dinner is usually on when I come home. I don't come home to sweats and flip flops either. It's heels, designer jeans or dresses. Nice tops. We sit and talk for long periods of time when I get home from work and we both like that. Tomorrow I am taking her to New Orleans with me on business. She's packing her little black dress and we are both excited to do this together as she's never been there. Feminists would not approve of our masculine/feminine relationship, however, we both contribute and have accepted our respective roles. Works for us bigtime. She also likes the fact that I'm a guy's guy. Jeans n T shirts when I'm at the house. Hunt, fish, musician. Do alot of things for her, and she really really enjoys/likes that. Forget the flip flop gals and gitcha an HB who wears heels and takes care of herself.
 
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5string said:
Have to agree here on most everything. My wife is grateful for the things I bring to the relationship. Steady job, killer home, fun, respectful, etc. She shows her appreciation in many ways. Get's up and makes me breakfast every morning. Dinner is usually on when I come home. I don't come home to sweats and flip flops either. It's heels, designer jeans or dresses. Nice tops. We sit and talk for long periods of time when I get home from work and we both like that. Tomorrow I am taking her to New Orleans with me on business. She's packing her little black dress and we are both excited to do this together as she's never been there. Feminists would not approve of our masculine/feminine relationship, however, we both contribute and have accepted our respective roles. Works for us bigtime. She also likes the fact that I'm a guy's guy. Jeans n T shirts when I'm at the house. Hunt, fish, musician. Do alot of things for her, and she really really enjoys/likes that. Forget the flip flop gals and gitcha an HB who wears heels and takes care of herself.
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That's a great story to hear. I think she chooses to put effort in her appearance as a way to show her gratitude for all you have done for her. A guy will definitely appreciate that.

Yes, your relationship is completely natural, you just be the man you were meant to be, and it appears that your wife knows 'how to be a girl.' No wonder your relationship is successful.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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5string said:
Have to agree here on most everything. My wife is grateful for the things I bring to the relationship. Steady job, killer home, fun, respectful, etc. She shows her appreciation in many ways. Get's up and makes me breakfast every morning. Dinner is usually on when I come home. I don't come home to sweats and flip flops either. It's heels, designer jeans or dresses. Nice tops. We sit and talk for long periods of time when I get home from work and we both like that. Tomorrow I am taking her to New Orleans with me on business. She's packing her little black dress and we are both excited to do this together as she's never been there. Feminists would not approve of our masculine/feminine relationship, however, we both contribute and have accepted our respective roles. Works for us bigtime. She also likes the fact that I'm a guy's guy. Jeans n T shirts when I'm at the house. Hunt, fish, musician. Do alot of things for her, and she really really enjoys/likes that. Forget the flip flop gals and gitcha an HB who wears heels and takes care of herself.
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Good to hear some WIN.
 
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The Muslims say hell is full of ungrateful women!

I mean really! Is it that hard to say "thank you"? Buy his favorite cookies for no reason (or bake them!) it's the little things that makes life good!
 
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