"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The power of knowing what is true

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Many times we try to achieve something with someone when the thing we try to achieve is already so. This is not knowing where you are and not knowing your condition.

You may say to a girl "Then you'll have to come and be with me" when the appropriate thing would have been to say "Then don't leave me like that."

The difference is that the first communicates that she is currently /not/ with you, while the latter recognises that she IS currently with you.

The difference is profound, because, in realisation that the first issues a statement of distance (when none is there) it can only CREATE that distance that didn't even exist. In this case (suppose the girl is walking past you complaining about the cold, as someone just was here) recognising that you don't need her to come near you, you just need to prevent her from leaving you: that's a different thing.

Not letting her leave recognises that she is with you and wants to be with you. Implying that she has to come to you suggests that she is not with you and does not want to be with you (in this case).

So you are communicating an untruth. At least I just was :p.

Very sorry. Very very sorry. Makes her feel lonely and alienated. I guess. But what do I know, I didn't ask her :p.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"Assuming the sale."

I wouldn't go as far as to 'force her not to leave' but saying/implying that she is already with you is pretty a confident trait in my opinion.
 
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The idea is that circumstances are usually better than what you think it to be.

You can usually get away with more than what you think. In the sense that recognising what IS provides the path to the golden future.
 
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Frayzer said:
"Assuming the sale."

I wouldn't go as far as to 'force her not to leave' but saying/implying that she is already with you is pretty a confident trait in my opinion.
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Yeah, I agree on that
 
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