"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Posture Exercise

B-Lemond

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Step 1 - Stand against a wall.

Step 2 - Make sure that your heels, butt, shoulders, elbows, and the back of your head are all touching the wall.

Step 3 - Take 3 steps forward while holding this posture.

Step 4 - Hold this posture for 3 seconds.

Step 5 - Walk back to the wall.

Do this exercise at least 15 times a day.


This is the Exercise to improve your posture making you look Dominant, Confident, and Alpha.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Where in the hell did you come up with this crazy idea?
 

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It's actually an excercise used by therapists to improve posture in people with a hunch and many other posture problems. Allthough, as always, it has it's variations. Make sure to try and keep the good posture and not just do the "excercise".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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B-Lemond

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Originally posted by taiwanesedude227
Should you do it 15 times in a row or throughout the day?
Doesn't matter. As long as you do at least 15 each day.

Honestly, if you are starting then why not finishing all in one go? It's only 15.
 

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Good tip!

Another one posted some time ago was imagine that you have an imaginary rope tied around your waste and it is pulling at your center while you're walking - forcing you to assume a more confident posture.

Gots to love these Jedi mind tricks.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by TheDarkSaint
There is a reason girls love military guys. The posture of "attention" is one of power. Remeber that, gentleman
I think "at ease" is more in order when it comes to being a DJ;)
 

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I've got a better posture exercise. It's called lifting weights. Squats, deadlifts, cleans, bench presses will all strengthen muscles that will naturally put your body in a better postion. Therefore your posture is automatically better and you don't have to work on posing like Zoolander. But, cool tip none the less.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Wrong.


I see tons of guys who lift, have have muscles rippling out of their bodies.

However, they still don't look dominant. They look incongruent because those muscles are huge but they still have bad posture.

Because they have bad posture (even though they already lift), they look unconfidant.


Therefore, lifting weights does not guarentee you better posture.
 

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B-Lemond said:
Step 1 - Stand against a wall.

Step 2 - Make sure that your heels, butt, shoulders, elbows, and the back of your head are all touching the wall.

Step 3 - Take 3 steps forward while holding this posture.

Step 4 - Hold this posture for 3 seconds.

Step 5 - Walk back to the wall.

Do this exercise at least 15 times a day.


This is the Exercise to improve your posture making you look Dominant, Confident, and Alpha.
This may be a litttle difficult to do. But with the following tip, I am sure that you will be able to pull it off.

TIP: Slightly flex your butt cheeks and cave your abs in.
 
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This is sad because Wing Chun is kind of a joke as a fighting art, but its great for posture & health. Anyway, the stance for WC is very similar to some other descriptions, here.

-Stand with feet shoulder width apart.
-Flex your abs.
-Pretend you're sitting on a stool (flex your butt, may involve bending the knees slightly)

Now walk around like that. Your legs & core are like loaded guns, along with a great center of gravity.
 
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Start working on your back and shoulders, stop sitting at the comp as much, and before you know it, all eyez on you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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