ok, i've heard alot of dudes preach the 3 day rule, but that is jus BS. it doesnt raise chicks interest level at all. i've found it jus gets them impatient and they move on wit there lives by then. so i usually wait about a day. but really i dont think it matters how long u wait to call a chick, jus how interesting your are and how interested u get her. wat u guys think?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wats that mean?flexion_ said:Phone calls only potentially decrease attraction they do nothing to increase it.
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But really i dont think it matters how long u wait to call a chick, jus how interesting your are and how interested u get her.
Exactly. Make sure you use the phone to setup dates and get caught up, don’t use it to develop rapport.
Exactly. Make sure you use the phone to setup dates and get caught up, don’t use it to develop rapport.
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3 day rule is total crap by way of empirical testing. The very idea behind the 3day rule is insecurity... "She will think I am desperate". That's really paranoid. Chances are guys who think like that really are desperate in the first place. IMO the way to not seem desperate is to not be desperate in the first place.
The other aspect of it... "if she's not interested enough to remember me after 3days, why bother?". That's actually a better line of reasoning for Internet hypothesis, however, empirically it's total crap. Girl's who considered flaking but decided not to based on a goodnight phone call often end up LTRs.
Sinn has a guide to how he does phone game that you can find on mystery's forum, and Juggler has his phone ideas (probably in his ASF archeive). We need to update the bible in this respect.
The other aspect of it... "if she's not interested enough to remember me after 3days, why bother?". That's actually a better line of reasoning for Internet hypothesis, however, empirically it's total crap. Girl's who considered flaking but decided not to based on a goodnight phone call often end up LTRs.
Sinn has a guide to how he does phone game that you can find on mystery's forum, and Juggler has his phone ideas (probably in his ASF archeive). We need to update the bible in this respect.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
blinkwatt,
I think you have given poor advice. If every guy here (with a large majority of them being AFCs) called when they WANTED, they'd call her 5 minutes after they got the number. These rules, while they can be broken by an experienced DJ, are there to help AFCs break bad habits.
I think you have given poor advice. If every guy here (with a large majority of them being AFCs) called when they WANTED, they'd call her 5 minutes after they got the number. These rules, while they can be broken by an experienced DJ, are there to help AFCs break bad habits.