ok, i've heard alot of dudes preach the 3 day rule, but that is jus BS. it doesnt raise chicks interest level at all. i've found it jus gets them impatient and they move on wit there lives by then. so i usually wait about a day. but really i dont think it matters how long u wait to call a chick, jus how interesting your are and how interested u get her. wat u guys think?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
THe phone convo
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
wats that mean?flexion_ said:Phone calls only potentially decrease attraction they do nothing to increase it.
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But really i dont think it matters how long u wait to call a chick, jus how interesting your are and how interested u get her.
Exactly. Make sure you use the phone to setup dates and get caught up, don’t use it to develop rapport.
Exactly. Make sure you use the phone to setup dates and get caught up, don’t use it to develop rapport.
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3 day rule is total crap by way of empirical testing. The very idea behind the 3day rule is insecurity... "She will think I am desperate". That's really paranoid. Chances are guys who think like that really are desperate in the first place. IMO the way to not seem desperate is to not be desperate in the first place.
The other aspect of it... "if she's not interested enough to remember me after 3days, why bother?". That's actually a better line of reasoning for Internet hypothesis, however, empirically it's total crap. Girl's who considered flaking but decided not to based on a goodnight phone call often end up LTRs.
Sinn has a guide to how he does phone game that you can find on mystery's forum, and Juggler has his phone ideas (probably in his ASF archeive). We need to update the bible in this respect.
The other aspect of it... "if she's not interested enough to remember me after 3days, why bother?". That's actually a better line of reasoning for Internet hypothesis, however, empirically it's total crap. Girl's who considered flaking but decided not to based on a goodnight phone call often end up LTRs.
Sinn has a guide to how he does phone game that you can find on mystery's forum, and Juggler has his phone ideas (probably in his ASF archeive). We need to update the bible in this respect.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
blinkwatt,
I think you have given poor advice. If every guy here (with a large majority of them being AFCs) called when they WANTED, they'd call her 5 minutes after they got the number. These rules, while they can be broken by an experienced DJ, are there to help AFCs break bad habits.
I think you have given poor advice. If every guy here (with a large majority of them being AFCs) called when they WANTED, they'd call her 5 minutes after they got the number. These rules, while they can be broken by an experienced DJ, are there to help AFCs break bad habits.