"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Performance Anxiety Thread

DJ Shaka

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Anyone ever had a problem like this? I'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to sex and I'm having this problem lately, I get nervous and lose my erection.

Any advice?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Pathgen

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Calm down relax. Cut back masturbating if you are. However, the most important thing is to just relax dont worry about it. If your just scared for some reason calming down will fix it. Also, i have no idea if this works but eat some food that will raise your blood pressure before.

Oh and get horny really horny with your girl ;D
 

hondo928

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You taking any medications or drinking? because that might be it. I know a kid who claims his aderal causes him problems, then his B*tch gf yelled at him because he couldn't get it up. I can see how even too much caffeine could cause the problem, or maybe do more foreplay.
 

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here's what happens. when you are too anxious, your blood flow gets cut off from your body parts where you don't need it.

you go into flight or fight mode and your body pumps blood in your muscles that you use for defense and your brain. that's why for some people, their face turns red when you are nervous or anxious.

if you drink caffeine or take ephedrine or pills that 'awaken you' then it will do worse. i've actually had a panick attack about 2 years ago when i was with a girl. i was nervous because she had been the first girl in a long time. on top of that i had 2 large starbucks coffees + 2 caffeine pills and it was enough to give me a panick attack. i almost ended up in the hospital.

now my performance anxiety is gone except very rarely when i'm very excited about being with a new girl who i find extremely attractive or whatever. and that's totally fine, it's okay to be excited to be with an attractive woman.

but now it doesn't stop me from performing. maybe it slows me down a little bit and i need to MENTALLY relax myself first before i can do something.

if you are having performance anxiety and you're young (so theres no PHYSICAL problem with your penis) then just have 2-3 glasses of wine before sex. it will take the edge off the anxiety and believe me, you will have no problem to get hard as hell.

for young guys, two glasses of wine works better than viagra
 
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