Alpine
Master Don Juan
In the Now.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The perfect place to live?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
McKindley
Senior Don Juan
Down here in Charleston, SC it only snows every few years. Even then its only a half inch of so.
Plus, there are all sorts of smoking hot girls with southern accents wearing next to nothing littered all over the streets. If it gets too hot you could always go to the beach (its a classy town, so the beached aren't commercialized, either)
But it does get REALLY hot and humid around this time of year, and lasts until August, at least. But that also means from now until august, all the girls are wearing skimpy skimpy clothes.
Damn, I'm going to walk down the street right now. Later!
Plus, there are all sorts of smoking hot girls with southern accents wearing next to nothing littered all over the streets. If it gets too hot you could always go to the beach (its a classy town, so the beached aren't commercialized, either)
But it does get REALLY hot and humid around this time of year, and lasts until August, at least. But that also means from now until august, all the girls are wearing skimpy skimpy clothes.
Damn, I'm going to walk down the street right now. Later!
Florida is terrible in the summer. The fall and winter are great, but it would be nice to have a change of seasons.
How old do you have to be to become a snowbird? I want to be able to get the hell out of FL between the months of June and August, maybe have a place in Colorado to escape the nasty heat and humidity. Other than that, I'll travel the world and stay a few weeks here and there throughout the year. Sounds like a plan.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
diplomatic_lies
Master Don Juan
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So ze Germans vill make you join zer armee!
so san diego got its name some several hundreds of years BEFORE the germans got there.
its true meaning has been forgotten.
"but doesn't it mean saint diego? yes it does, it means saint diego"
no no, it definently doesnt.
yes, and it means "whale's vagina"...
man, that was just a joke by ron burgundy...
actually, the first colonists arrived in San Diego, escorted by sergeant jose ortega of the presidio, in september 26th 1774
1. in 1851, San Diego Herald publishes its first edition.
2. in 1865 there already was an elementary school in san diego...
3. san diego's city first park was planned in 1868
but, as you say, the city was still to be founded by some germans in 1904
man, that was just a joke by ron burgundy...
actually, the first colonists arrived in San Diego, escorted by sergeant jose ortega of the presidio, in september 26th 1774
1. in 1851, San Diego Herald publishes its first edition.
2. in 1865 there already was an elementary school in san diego...
3. san diego's city first park was planned in 1868
but, as you say, the city was still to be founded by some germans in 1904
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
BrWnSugaMan
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AUSTIN TEXAS
Go research it...you will see that I am correct.
Go research it...you will see that I am correct.
