"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Pattern as I see it.

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There exists a pattern that every member of a Seduction Forum conforms to.

How do I:
  1. make her like me?
  2. get laid?
  3. get a girlfriend?
  4. help others answer those questions?
Every thread will be some blend of the above, and with that being said, let's look at the answers:
  1. If You need to ask how to make that particular girl like you, nothing will work (as the question itself is flawed).
  2. Pickup Artistry.
  3. A complete life style change.
  4. By giving quality advice- based from experience.
As you can see: Question 1 is fundamentally flawed, 2 is simple, but 3 involves the most effort.

By no coincidence does the noobie follow this exact chronology (ideally arriving at question 4 with answers not theories!).

An important note: The answer for 3 will make you a good PUA, that particular girl will like you, and you'll qualify to give advice. Clearly, it's the best answer and my definition of a DJ.

A complete life style change.

Cut the cra>:

Effort scale 0.

Maybe you gamble every cent or plain just need to stop acting so queer around girls.
Whatever it is, cut the cra>.
This is the first step to change your life.

It isn't fixing things; it's stopping them.
Write out a list, right now, of all the cra> you could cut out your life.
If you can't remedy the problem by simply not doing it, you put it on your next list.

You'd be surprised how much cra> you can fix by not doing it, and the good thing is, it requires no effort- you lazy fuc> :).

Shi> I could do, if I felt like it:

Effort scale <= 5 But NOT < 1 (see former list).

When you can't stop doing something, you might have to fix it instead.
This stuff is so easy, you can start it right away with marginal effort.
For me the list looks like: Daily chores, hygiene, socialising, flirting with sets, working etc etc.

You probably do most of these things anyway but it's important that you write the list and add to it as things get easier (it's cool to put things that once scared you on this list).

It could become a huge motivator of how far you've come, and a constant reminder of not letting them creep up into the harder list.

Shi> you should probably do...:
Effort scale > 5 But NOT > 10 (scale is from 1 - 10 derr).

Yeah, you know exactly what I'm talking about.
Mine looked a little like this when I first came here: Get laid, maybe get a girlfriend, get ripped, get a job, fix my car, learn PUA etc.

These are genuine goals and the ultimate goal of this list is to move it down to 'Shi> I could do, if I felt like it'.
The list accounts for every advice seeking thread in Sosuave.

Set some goals as well as having Seduction specific ones.

In summary: Cut the cra> and bring everything below 5, on the effort scale.
You can achieve a lot.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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