"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Fly By Night

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I'm home for Spring Break and I really don't have much to do except finish some projects, game random women at random places, and read up some info on sosuave.

Most of my friends are white (I'm Black) and they really pump up my self-esteem by saying I'm really classy for a Black guy. I like being suave and all, but when I'm at parties and such, being laid-back and chill does not grab you a lot of attention.

Girls now days feel like they all deserve to have men crawling after their heels without putting effort in themselves, so I still take initiative and approach women as a DJ should. The problem here is that, when you're out on the dance floor... How do you get a girl to dance with you without seeming like another thirsty guy who wants to bang?

P.S. I've had dances before, it's just that my approach was not the smoothest. (or should I say "suavest")
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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sigma335

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Fly By Night said:
How do you get a girl to dance with you without seeming like another thirsty guy who wants to bang?

P.S. I've had dances before, it's just that my approach was not the smoothest. (or should I say "suavest")
Learn how to dance, I mean really dance not just rocking your hips and moving your feet, take some classes and improve yourself. With that your approaches will be a lot more smooth and your will give off a confident vibe women will find attractive at those type of parties.
 

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It's not the actual dancing that's the problem, it's the approach for a dance. I was just asking for some nice techniques you could use to set yourself apart from the rest (in a crowded setting).
 

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What I am saying is take a real dance class not just to learn how to dance but also because after you start going to these classes you will appear extremely comfortable in those type of party/dance situations. I think that people subconsciously give off vibes, in close spaces, especially when words are not being spoken such as on a dance floor.


I really doubt there are techniques, other than smiling, appearing confident, and comfortable. Also talk to everyone. Introduce yourself to girls/guys when you are away from the dance floor if you don't know the person. I mean you're saying your dance approaches have not been the smoothest, the best thing to do is work on your game...every aspect of it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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