"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Party Scene

Fly By Night

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I'm home for Spring Break and I really don't have much to do except finish some projects, game random women at random places, and read up some info on sosuave.

Most of my friends are white (I'm Black) and they really pump up my self-esteem by saying I'm really classy for a Black guy. I like being suave and all, but when I'm at parties and such, being laid-back and chill does not grab you a lot of attention.

Girls now days feel like they all deserve to have men crawling after their heels without putting effort in themselves, so I still take initiative and approach women as a DJ should. The problem here is that, when you're out on the dance floor... How do you get a girl to dance with you without seeming like another thirsty guy who wants to bang?

P.S. I've had dances before, it's just that my approach was not the smoothest. (or should I say "suavest")
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sigma335

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Fly By Night said:
How do you get a girl to dance with you without seeming like another thirsty guy who wants to bang?

P.S. I've had dances before, it's just that my approach was not the smoothest. (or should I say "suavest")
Learn how to dance, I mean really dance not just rocking your hips and moving your feet, take some classes and improve yourself. With that your approaches will be a lot more smooth and your will give off a confident vibe women will find attractive at those type of parties.
 

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It's not the actual dancing that's the problem, it's the approach for a dance. I was just asking for some nice techniques you could use to set yourself apart from the rest (in a crowded setting).
 

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What I am saying is take a real dance class not just to learn how to dance but also because after you start going to these classes you will appear extremely comfortable in those type of party/dance situations. I think that people subconsciously give off vibes, in close spaces, especially when words are not being spoken such as on a dance floor.


I really doubt there are techniques, other than smiling, appearing confident, and comfortable. Also talk to everyone. Introduce yourself to girls/guys when you are away from the dance floor if you don't know the person. I mean you're saying your dance approaches have not been the smoothest, the best thing to do is work on your game...every aspect of it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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