"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The overfull closet

Knight's Cross

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I just realized something this morning while cleaning out my walk in closet. Once every 6 months or so I go thru and goodwill all my outdated, not wearing this shirts, pants, etc.

Here's what I realized. That most women that I've dated that had too much baggage....also had the most CLUTTERED, hold on to everything they've ever worn closets. As if they carried their mental baggage trait over to their physical baggage closet. May not be a scientific reason for this, but I have seen it.
How can you use this knowledge you ask? Well somehow in that C & F starter pack you use, drop a question about how many pairs of shoes does she own. If it's a crazy # (use your best judgement here) then you may have just picked up a clue to her bag count.
The bottom line is that (MOST) balanced women that I've dated were not pack rats unable to cleanse themselves of all their past. The balanced ones went thru their closests from time to time and emptied out stuff that could best be donated to a charity. Mentally they did the same thing. They let go of relationship hurts and pains that were unhealthy for them.

My observation,

KC
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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joekerr31

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they say you should throw out / give away anything you haven't worn or used for 12 months.

personally i love getting rid of stuff im not using. i like keeping my life to the bare essentials.
 

Magma

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I am compelled to post. Wonderful observation KC. It got me thinking about my last gf. She had issues with drug use, and as a consequence, ended up moving from place to place in order to "run away" from her issues. However, through all these moves, she kept all her shoes and old random ****. Man, great food for thought. She had something like 20-30 pairs of shoes.

Let's not for forget that correlation does not necessarily imply causation. Some chicks just like shoes, but in my experience with this woman, your hypothesis could prove true.

Interesting...
 
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