"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The overfull closet

Knight's Cross

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I just realized something this morning while cleaning out my walk in closet. Once every 6 months or so I go thru and goodwill all my outdated, not wearing this shirts, pants, etc.

Here's what I realized. That most women that I've dated that had too much baggage....also had the most CLUTTERED, hold on to everything they've ever worn closets. As if they carried their mental baggage trait over to their physical baggage closet. May not be a scientific reason for this, but I have seen it.
How can you use this knowledge you ask? Well somehow in that C & F starter pack you use, drop a question about how many pairs of shoes does she own. If it's a crazy # (use your best judgement here) then you may have just picked up a clue to her bag count.
The bottom line is that (MOST) balanced women that I've dated were not pack rats unable to cleanse themselves of all their past. The balanced ones went thru their closests from time to time and emptied out stuff that could best be donated to a charity. Mentally they did the same thing. They let go of relationship hurts and pains that were unhealthy for them.

My observation,

KC
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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joekerr31

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they say you should throw out / give away anything you haven't worn or used for 12 months.

personally i love getting rid of stuff im not using. i like keeping my life to the bare essentials.
 

Magma

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I am compelled to post. Wonderful observation KC. It got me thinking about my last gf. She had issues with drug use, and as a consequence, ended up moving from place to place in order to "run away" from her issues. However, through all these moves, she kept all her shoes and old random ****. Man, great food for thought. She had something like 20-30 pairs of shoes.

Let's not for forget that correlation does not necessarily imply causation. Some chicks just like shoes, but in my experience with this woman, your hypothesis could prove true.

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