"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The overfull closet

Knight's Cross

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I just realized something this morning while cleaning out my walk in closet. Once every 6 months or so I go thru and goodwill all my outdated, not wearing this shirts, pants, etc.

Here's what I realized. That most women that I've dated that had too much baggage....also had the most CLUTTERED, hold on to everything they've ever worn closets. As if they carried their mental baggage trait over to their physical baggage closet. May not be a scientific reason for this, but I have seen it.
How can you use this knowledge you ask? Well somehow in that C & F starter pack you use, drop a question about how many pairs of shoes does she own. If it's a crazy # (use your best judgement here) then you may have just picked up a clue to her bag count.
The bottom line is that (MOST) balanced women that I've dated were not pack rats unable to cleanse themselves of all their past. The balanced ones went thru their closests from time to time and emptied out stuff that could best be donated to a charity. Mentally they did the same thing. They let go of relationship hurts and pains that were unhealthy for them.

My observation,

KC
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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joekerr31

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they say you should throw out / give away anything you haven't worn or used for 12 months.

personally i love getting rid of stuff im not using. i like keeping my life to the bare essentials.
 

Magma

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I am compelled to post. Wonderful observation KC. It got me thinking about my last gf. She had issues with drug use, and as a consequence, ended up moving from place to place in order to "run away" from her issues. However, through all these moves, she kept all her shoes and old random ****. Man, great food for thought. She had something like 20-30 pairs of shoes.

Let's not for forget that correlation does not necessarily imply causation. Some chicks just like shoes, but in my experience with this woman, your hypothesis could prove true.

Interesting...
 
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