"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The ONLY way to control a BPD chic

Alpheta

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2 golden rules one must apply on a BPD chic if he wants her under his control

  • Treat her like complete ****. Lower her already low self esteem
  • Show NO affection
I truly believe thats the only way. Im not advocating it, just making a point.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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HeadLightsOn

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No. The only way to control a BPD is to run. Remove yourself from the situation completely and ignore her.

That is the 'control.' If you stay, anywhere around them, you are feeding them. And they will keep eating until your shrivelled husk blows away in the wind. Amen.
 

Bible_Belt

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"Isn't it sad that we can never be together?"

That's the only frame you need. Keep it, and you will have sex with her as long as you want.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dustmuffin

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I have never been in a relationship with a woman like this. But it seems that the best venue of action would to be leave and never look back. Life is crazy. Why court disaster with a relationship like this?
 
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