"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The only time looks actually, really, REALLY matter is in online dating.

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Even then, though, if you meet a girl because of physical attraction but your game/personality/confidence etc sucks, you're still f*cked. I have *seriously* never been approached by a woman in the real world in my life, yet in the online scene (made a profile on PoF mainly for sh!ts and giggles) I've gotten a sh!t ton of messages in the last two weeks without sending any myself.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Korrupt said:
Even then, though, if you meet a girl because of physical attraction but your game/personality/confidence etc sucks, you're still f*cked. I have *seriously* never been approached by a woman in the real world in my life, yet in the online scene (made a profile on PoF mainly for sh!ts and giggles) I've gotten a sh!t ton of messages in the last two weeks without sending any myself.
Yeah but what about the quality of the women? I don't think what you say holds any value due to the fact that i'm willing to bet most of the women sending you messages are below your league.

I don't think saying "looks don't matter" holds value when any good looking guy will get his inbox flooded with messages from hb 6's and below. Any remotely cute female on POF is not sending the first message but only replies as she has tons of messages flooding her inbox everyday. She is getting all the attention she craves. You would have to be a freaking doctor with a picture of the 6 figure car to back it up to get a message from a hb 8/9 on POF with her sending the first message.
 

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Yeah but what about the quality of the women? I don't think what you say holds any value due to the fact that i'm willing to bet most of the women sending you messages are below your league.

I don't think saying "looks don't matter" holds value when any good looking guy will get his inbox flooded with messages from hb 6's and below. Any remotely cute female on POF is not sending the first message but only replies as she has tons of messages flooding her inbox everyday. She is getting all the attention she craves. You would have to be a freaking doctor with a picture of the 6 figure car to back it up to get a message from a hb 8/9 on POF with her sending the first message.
I thought the same thing. I figured that any girl who was even remotely good-looking would have so many messages flooding her inbox that she wouldn't even bother searching for guys on the site. Surprisingly, some of them were attractive. But looks can be subjective. You may think a girl is smoking, I may think she's average, and vice-versa.

Age is a factor. I really don't think the women in my age group are looking for a guy who is loaded with money (a plus, though, I'm sure).

I also think that I am (unfortunately) living proof that looks =/= success with women
 

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Wow, after reading this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=177163

I am beyond shocked that I actually got messages from girls on POF. The fact that Des made a profile with a very average looking girl and had guys throwing themselves at "her" feet as well as putting up with "her" crap is mind blowing for me. WTF is this world coming to? No wonder a lot of women are with *******s, because an assh0le is something different from the other 4030538597592793 guys out there. This sh!t makes me sick.
 
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