The Only Three Reasons She Left You

[bigneil]

There are only three reasons a woman will leave a man (according to Jim Wolfe)

1) She never liked you to begin with - She was only interested in dinner, money, concerts, etc.
2) She liked you but you messed up - Examine what went wrong. You lowered her interest somehow.
3) She liked you and you didn't mess up - You chose the wrong girl.

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[Urbanyst]

Don't really agree with #2.

The only way a man can "mess up" is by not providing VALUE or by having less VALUE than another man she can attract emotionally. Everything else is just BS excuses women use to leave you that are not usually the true reason. #2 also suggests that its worth compromising yourself to keep a woman who will leave you anyway lol. Waste of time and energy.

I come out of break ups much more at peace when I don't compromise myself in any way.

 

[bigneil]

Don't really agree with #2.

The only way a man can "mess up" is by not providing VALUE or by having less VALUE than another man she can attract emotionally. Everything else is just BS excuses women use to leave you that are not usually the true reason. #2 also suggests that its worth compromising yourself to keep a woman who will leave you anyway lol. Waste of time and energy.

I come out of break ups much more at peace when I don't compromise myself in any way.

In a binary sense, though, there are two switches:

a) She didn't like you. (END)
OR
A) She liked you.

if A, then we have:

b) You messed up.
OR
B) You didn't mess up.

(END)

 

[Trump]

I come out of break ups much more at peace when I don't compromise myself in any way.

Just curious, can you explain "in any way?"

Good looking 26 year old girl is in love with you and wants to get married but needs a few compromises. You would say no and break up with her?

If you would I am impressed. To be with a young girl seems like it is so so important nowadays. All the guys I know in their 30s would bend over backwards to have a good looking wife to be with and have sex with.

 

[soulforge]

My relationship simply ended because she continued to disrespect me..

Why did she disrespect me? VALUE

She valued money and status...

If you where taking her 3-4 holidays a year, buying her nice jewellery, taking her to the best restaurants..

Do you really think she would disrespect you? Not a fuking chance!

 

[skinnyguy]

I usually break up with them first. Or I just go ghost. I have extremely low tolerance. If a girl does leave me, I never regret it cause I would never want to be with a woman who is low interest. If I have to work that hard to keep her interested, she was never mine to begin with.

 

[Meektrop]

My relationship simply ended because she continued to disrespect me..

Why did she disrespect me? VALUE

She valued money and status...

If you where taking her 3-4 holidays a year, buying her nice jewellery, taking her to the best restaurants..

Do you really think she would disrespect you? Not a fuking chance!

Don't beat yourself up too much. How many women can realisticly get that? In this economy?

It's her loss your value isnt determined by material wealth, no matter what THEY think

 

[Roober]

Agreed @bigneil

And often times, it is #2 and guys fail to recognize their mistakes.

 

[logicallefty]

4) Vag no tingle tingly

 

[bigneil]

She valued money and status...If you where taking her 3-4 holidays a year, buying her nice jewellery, taking her to the best restaurants.. Do you really think she would disrespect you? Not a fuking chance!

Not sure this is true. If anything, buying her things when there is no attraction causes more disrespect.

I spoil girls but only because I'm a total control freak and they are ejected if they don't fulfil their role of ideal woman.

 

[nismo-4]

5) You fell out of first place.

You're always competing for a woman even in a relationship. If you're not first, you're last. Analyze your value.

A breakup happens when you fail to beat out her competition or she wanted you in a different role (beta provider) and your values didn't align. The latter is the better outcome, but the former can hurt like hell.

 

[bigneil]

4) Vag no tingle tingly

This isn't enough information. Did she ever like you?

5) You fell out of first place.

This falls under either number 2, meaning she liked you but you messed up (other guys were better) or 3 you chose the wrong girl (she likes women, etc).

 

[zekko]

4) She's stupid.

That could fall under #3 though.

 

[devilkingx2]

Don't really agree with #2.

The only way a man can "mess up" is by not providing VALUE or by having less VALUE than another man she can attract emotionally. Everything else is just BS excuses women use to leave you that are not usually the true reason. #2 also suggests that its worth compromising yourself to keep a woman who will leave you anyway lol. Waste of time and energy.

I come out of break ups much more at peace when I don't compromise myself in any way.

what if she catches you fvcking the babysitter and you have to decide whether or not smashing the babysitter was the bad idea or being so sloppy that you got caught was where you went wrong

 

[bigneil]

what if she catches you fvcking the babysitter and you have to decide whether or not smashing the babysitter was the bad idea or being so sloppy that you got caught was where you went wrong

2) She liked you and you messed up.

 

[Urbanyst]

2) She liked you and you messed up.

There is no messing up. You were just being who you are and she discovered she didn't like who you are.

By the way. A lot of men cheat and the woman stays. Why? VALUE.

 

[bigneil]

Of course there is messing up. Try texting your girl 29 straight times and see how much value she perceives.

 

[Urbanyst]

Of course there is messing up. Try texting your girl 29 straight times and see how much value she perceives.

That's not something I would ever do because its not in my personality. But if a guy were to do that.. he is just revealing his personality. Is revealing your personality "messing up?" Depends on your goals. If you just want sex sure. If you want compatibility there is no such thing as messing up.

 

[bigneil]

That's not something I would ever do because its not in my personality. But if a guy were to do that.. he is just revealing his personality. Is revealing your personality "messing up?" Depends on your goals. If you just want sex sure. If you want compatibility there is no such thing as messing up.

If your personality is "stalker", yes, you messed up.

An alpha male takes responsibility ALWAYS. Are you suggesting he take responsibility NEVER??

 

[zekko]

By the way. A lot of men cheat and the woman stays. Why? VALUE.

A lot of men cheat and the woman stays. Why? Poor self esteem.