"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The only thing men want

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Most men want to be nurtured, but women are not built like this. Women are built to go with the best option available to fit their needs at the time. That’s why we tell men, don’t care about her, care about yourself, she comes along for the ride.

Saying that; women have sex with men for two reasons:

1) Basic instinct sex
2) Transactional sex

Basic instinct type sex is with the alpha; her clothes come off fast and he spends very little money and resources on her. She gives in to her basic instincts, not because of his resources.

Transactional type sex is with the beta; where he has to date her, woo her, spend on her. She gives in for his resources, not because of attraction.

I think one of the main problems of this site is that men want the sex with women to be basic instinct sex type, not transactional. When it’s transactional, the man has invested his resources and time, and the excuses come, the talk back comes, the hypergamy comes, the divorce comes, the ex boyfriend comes.

So men, improve yourself to the point where most of the sex you are having is basic instinct type sex. Even if you are in a relationship, she has to want you in a basic instinct type way, not a transactional type way.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Most men want to be nurtured, but women are not built like this. Women are built to go with the best option available to fit their needs at the time. That’s why we tell men, don’t care about her, care about yourself, she comes along for the ride.

Saying that; women have sex with men for two reasons:

1) Basic instinct sex
2) Transactional sex

Basic instinct type sex is with the alpha; her clothes come off fast and he spends very little money and resources on her. She gives in to her basic instincts, not because of his resources.

Transactional type sex is with the beta; where he has to date her, woo her, spend on her. She gives in for his resources, not because of attraction.

I think one of the main problems of this site is that men want the sex with women to be basic instinct sex type, not transactional. When it’s transactional, the man has invested his resources and time, and the excuses come, the talk back comes, the hypergamy comes, the divorce comes, the ex boyfriend comes.

So men, improve yourself to the point where most of the sex you are having us basic instinct type sex. Even if you are in a relationship, she has to want you in a basic instinct type way, not a transactional type way.

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Good post. I'm wondering why you advise us to go for basic instinct sex, but in previous paragraph state that one of main problems of this site is that men are going for basic instinct sex :/
 

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Good post. I'm wondering why you advise us to go for basic instinct sex, but in previous paragraph state that one of main problems of this site is that men are going for basic instinct sex :/
Men want basic instinct type sex but when women won’t give it to them, thats where the issues occur.

Men should always go for it, but they shouldn't force it. A lot of the issues come with forcing it. When a woman is lukewarm or doesn’t give in or “pulls back” for whatever reason; men take this as a cue to try harder. They buy more gifts, spend more time, invest more money. It only makes it more transactional.

In essence Im saying men should go for the sex as quick as possible (basic instinct) while investing as little as possible (transactional).
 

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Men want basic instinct type sex but when women won’t give it to them, thats where the issues occur.

Men should always go for it, but they shouldn't force it. A lot of the issues come with forcing it. When a woman is lukewarm or doesn’t give in or “pulls back” for whatever reason; men take this as a cue to try harder. They buy more gifts, spend more time, invest more money. It only makes it more transactional.

In essence Im saying men should go for the sex as quick as possible (basic instinct) while investing as little as possible (transactional).
Yes you can't force it. Forcing will prevent it. What you can do is pull away and perhaps deal with a female who has lust and desire.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Wouldn't it be better to build up your alpha and beta at the same time? Cover all your bases, appeal to the broadest range of women and get laid more than just being alpha or beta alone.
 

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Men want basic instinct type sex but when women won’t give it to them, thats where the issues occur.

Men should always go for it, but they shouldn't force it. A lot of the issues come with forcing it. When a woman is lukewarm or doesn’t give in or “pulls back” for whatever reason; men take this as a cue to try harder. They buy more gifts, spend more time, invest more money. It only makes it more transactional.

In essence Im saying men should go for the sex as quick as possible (basic instinct) while investing as little as possible (transactional).
Yeah, i always go for kiss on first meet
Men want basic instinct type sex but when women won’t give it to them, thats where the issues occur.

Men should always go for it, but they shouldn't force it. A lot of the issues come with forcing it. When a woman is lukewarm or doesn’t give in or “pulls back” for whatever reason; men take this as a cue to try harder. They buy more gifts, spend more time, invest more money. It only makes it more transactional.

In essence Im saying men should go for the sex as quick as possible (basic instinct) while investing as little as possible (transactional).
HaHa. Buying women gifts and paying for their meals. That is so 1990's

Yeah, i always try to move things along asap. Kiss or sex on first date.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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On trying to force it, David De Angelo advised that if she resists, then you pull back a little. Sit on edge of bed and turn your back on her. Play on your phone a little and IGNORE her. She will try and get your attention. Act uninterested. She will get the message. If she tries to cuddle you or makes contact with your body...you go back to warming her up, kissing, cuddling, smelling (turning her on) try and go further than last time...if she resists...ignore her again....the aim is to get further with her.
 
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