cablecow15
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your not funny anymore , its annoying as hell to see you bring up this same crap in every thing he postsAlexDP said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The only cure for a woman is another woman
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Quite why anyone would have a thing with a stripper is beyond me, I'd have thought that given BigNeil's level of intelligence and decency he would strive to find someone better.cablecow15 said:
Still though I strongly disagree with the title of this post. You get over a woman by being a man and accepting that things won't always go your way life and then you climb back on the saddle and ride onwards and upwards to brighter horizons.
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Not all BigNeil, I have been hurt by women quite a few times, but you see when you have burned a few times your body starts to become immune to it, so when it does happen the next time, it hurts even less than the time before. Eventually it doesn't really bother you anymore, granted I have never been in 'love' with women purely because I refuse to allow myself to go down that road of inevitable ruin.bigneil said:
Love is an idiot's game, a bit like gambling, I'd rather not play if it's all the same with you?
Perseverance, I've been dating women and dealing with broken hearts since you were born. I haven't found a way to avoid them, women or broken hearts, on both sides. I don't think I want to because it's a function of passion.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I don't do it to be funny. It's because it's bigneil's core issue. He's a narcissist. He has this grand idea of himself and he was very surprised he fell for the stripper's BPD act. Now he wants to prove to himself that he has complete control over his emotions by getting over her as soon as possible. He's trying all kinds of theories to speed up the process. But it's not about her, it's about him. As soon as he realises he made a mistake with the stripper, realises he can't control all his emotions and just accepts them, he'll be over her in two days.cablecow15 said:
You accept your emotions and you deal with them. What you don't do is this ridiculous running from them. It's no coincidence that he thinks the only way to get over a woman is to get a new one. It means he cannot be on his own, but needs someone to project his inflated image on. As soon as he has another partner, the stripper will indeed truly be forgotten. Until the new partner breaks up with him and disaster happens again.
I'm not so arrogant as to pretend that a woman must have a personality disorder just because she didn't love me forever. Maybe she left me because she was smart. This woman was an unjaded sweetheart. There were no mistakes and I pray my next relationship is just as exciting.
The girl isn't important, YOUR personality disorder is.bigneil said:
Also: notice how you conveniently made yourself look great in your post. "I'm not so arrogant" (= "I am humble"), "She left me because she was smart" (= I am humble and mature). You're a narcissist. It shows in everything you say.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Personality disorder? WTF? You sound like the dysfunctional girl I recently dated. Everything had to be a f'ing emotional problem. Neither of us cares about mainstream sports but I told her, when I was a kid, I was a rabid football fan and when my favorite team lost the Superbowl I was really sad, even cried about it. But I haven't cared about football since the mid/late 90s. She couldn't drop it -- I must have had some underlying emotional problem because crying when your team loses the Superbowl must just be a way to cover up the problem. I was like WTF???
Don't turn molehills into mountains, geez.
Don't turn molehills into mountains, geez.
Don't be an idiot. Girls with personality disorders date guys with personality disorders. Bigneil is one of those guys. Your story is completely different from bigneil who shows he's a narcissist in every single thread he creates.DonJuanabe said:
I think there is truth to this. I think you can learn quite a few things about a person when you look at their partners, or dating history.AlexDP said:
I just feel like, if you find yourself dating chicks that are wacko, you need to look at yourself. People who don't have emotional problems don't stick around dating wacked chicks, they move on as soon as they realize said chick is wacked.
Just like a girl who dates nothing but losers and complains there are no good men left. Obviously she's got some things she needs to work on.
If you start seeing a pattern in your dating life that you're not happy with, you really need to look in the mirror and evaluate.
cablecow15
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You show your OCD in every thread he creates. Why do you give a crap if we know if he is a narcissist or not ? even if he is , and even if he is stuck on a stripper , at least hes helpful and gives advice , all you do is post about him ....
and talk crap
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
cablecow15
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I really like this , it should be on everyone's ceiling above their bed , so they read it every dayMisterD said:
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What exactly is the reward?zekko said:
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What's that got do with a relationship? Can a man who is nearly at the end of his cycle not sleep with women through ONS and FWB situations? I fail to see what is so special about a relationship, marriage, 2.4 children and a house with lots of pretty flowers and a white picket fence.bigneil said:
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Also another point I'd like to add is why so many men define how successful they are through women they have dated and slept with? Seriously is that the best achievement a vastly majority of men can muster? I wouldn't consider something as natural as having sex as being definite of whether or not I am successful or unsuccessful.
If you want to define your success on the women you have had sex with, fair enough, but I'd rather define my success through my career and the friends I keep.
If you want to define your success on the women you have had sex with, fair enough, but I'd rather define my success through my career and the friends I keep.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.