"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The one quality women possess that men don’t

tesla8520

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I might be wrong...
But I've always tought women are born with a unique quality which allow them to actually spot men they can manipulate; have power on.

Given this, women will actually categorize men they've power on, so they can use them for their lives.

So if a man can be manipulated, she will marry him.
If a man cannot be manipulated, she will know. (those are the man she'll keep as orbiters and eventually come back to them when she lose men they can manipulate).

What's your experience on this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That's something that is honed over many years of experience with different men.

Essentially they see a pattern of behavior that allows them to determine that.
 

FlexpertHamilton

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I've actually thought about this more and more recently. I've never had any female friends my whole life or been an orbiter. I think it's simply beceause they don't see me as someone they can easily manipulate. I don't actually know if I am easily manipulated or not, I just know I'm very hard to read, and I know some women hate that.

I do think for some woman, being able to control their man is their entire MO. Whether its just an ego trip or a safety thing, I don't know. But what I increasingly suspect is that many women in seemingly "happy" marriages are effectively dictators and tyrants of the household and the man has no power. I think even a lot of blue-pilled guys would admit that that is self-evident.

While I don't think it's necessarily common for women to prefer being with a man they can manipulate, I do suspect that many women do at least categorize men based on whether he can be manipulated or not.

All I can say with certainty is that high quality women want a man that they can't manipulate. They will test him, and if he does not fold they will happily give him the reigns.
 
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tesla8520

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That's something that is honed over many years of experience with different men.

Essentially they see a pattern of behavior that allows them to determine that.
I also think, men with experience, lose some qualities in the process.
So they appear "less" vulnerable to women than other guys who they can easly manipulate
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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No sex involved = man cannot be manipulated.
 
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