"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The One Phrase I Hear A Ton From Girls Over 27
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
jophil28
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I am guessing that women who say this are implying that men have let them down.Disco said:
Perhaps this comment is a consequence of women having absurd expectations to begin with, or maybe men generally really are a bunch of limp dycks.
Why not ask her, " So what were your expectations? "
The answers would be interesting - I think that she would sound like she is reading straight out of Cosmo.
Kailex
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You're beating me to it lately.jophil28 said:
I was going to respond to the OP that I've heard the same thing from women (dating or non-dating) usually after the tail end of a real bad dating experience. Want me to be more specific?
Usually right after dating a guy they THOUGHT was THAT guy in her life and then all of a sudden, he took off.
Now, I can see how some people here might confuse EXPECTATIONS with STANDARDS.
Just because she has no expectations, doesn't mean she's lowering her standards and is just going to take in the first guy that'll want something serious with her. She's just saying that she's not going to put all her eggs in her "emotion basket" because she's most likely afraid that you are THAT guy and might run away just as the last guy did.
Funny, because as soon as you hear something like this, you almost want to run.
And as Jophil said... go ahead, ask what the expectations are and then ask her what she's looking for and how low the bar might be set and you'll get all sorts of confusing and canned statements.
And of course, the obvious... girls over 27 start to have a shorter list of options and a shorter list of tolerances than that girl at age 20 who is a sophomore in college and just wants to party.
The last and only woman I've been close to said pretty much that exactly. After I managed to **** it all up with my afc ways she told me she never expects anything from anyone. That is just pure bull****. It's a nice idea but it's next to impossible not to expect anything from anyone you meet.
This is after I opened my heart to her and she blew me off because I didn't take the initiative and **** her brains out the first night we met.
It's a long story but the jist is I basically learned that women will say one thing and do the exact opposite without giving it a second thought.
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Broads operate solely on emotion, not logic.Neon Owl said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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She's either an attention wh0re or she's setting you up to flake on you.
"I don't have any expectations anymore"
You notice how she takes absolutely no responsibility for her implied history of failed relationships? She was the only common denominator in all of those relationships. But no, it couldn't have anything to to do with her, could it? It's not possible that she just keeps getting involved with the wrong guys without learning from her mistakes. Could it be that she is doing something wrong? Of course not!
Nope, the poor girl just expected too much of the male sex. She is a saint in world full of sinners. But she has been so kind as to lower her standards so that she can accommodate those of us who are not quite capable of reaching her lofty ideals. How very kind of her! Be weary of women in their later 20s who act bitter. There is a good chance these girls have a massively over inflated idea of their value.
jophil28
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Excellent ^^Lexington said:
Are you sure that you are only 25 years old ?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.