Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I am guessing that women who say this are implying that men have let them down.Disco said:I am hearing this a ton when I go out on dates or just talk to girl's randomly out, "i don't have any expectations anymore". I never remember hearing that in my early 20's. Obviously I know what that's about.
You're beating me to it lately.jophil28 said:I am guessing that women who say this are implying that men have let them down.
Perhaps this comment is a consequence of women having absurd expectations to begin with, or maybe men generally really are a bunch of limp dycks.
Why not ask her, " So what were your expectations? "
The answers would be interesting - I think that she would sound like she is reading straight out of Cosmo.
Broads operate solely on emotion, not logic.Neon Owl said:It's a long story but the jist is I basically learned that women will say one thing and do the exact opposite without giving it a second thought.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Excellent ^^Lexington said:Yup, it's definitely a red flag.
"I don't have any expectations anymore"
You notice how she takes absolutely no responsibility for her implied history of failed relationships? She was the only common denominator in all of those relationships. But no, it couldn't have anything to to do with her, could it? It's not possible that she just keeps getting involved with the wrong guys without learning from her mistakes. Could it be that she is doing something wrong? Of course not!
Nope, the poor girl just expected too much of the male sex. She is a saint in world full of sinners. But she has been so kind as to lower her standards so that she can accommodate those of us who are not quite capable of reaching her lofty ideals. How very kind of her! Be weary of women in their later 20s who act bitter. There is a good chance these girls have a massively over inflated idea of their value.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.