"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The "One" DOES Exist!

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This is pretty much the best post on the forums and should probably be one of the first things to be put in the DJ bible
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Genesis 1:26

And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness:
and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle,
and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.
 

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Clever twist of the "ONE". Good example of taking something that's usually a detrimental frame of mind and applying it for good use!
 

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Its good to find a woman with the same characteristics as the "one".

Otherwise, you have the "one", at 12:30pm in the bathroom with some lubriciant and napkins. Truly the "one".
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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i have this post in my favorites and just read it again for probably the tenth time or so. i came across this post when i was feeling discouraged; it really picks me up
 

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I loved this post. Wow. Awesome.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fantastic bump/necro. :D

Survivor is right. After I met my nemesis, the one Oneitis whom I thought to be The One, I did some deep soul searching.

The most important conclusion I was able to draw from my analysis of myself and my behavior, wants, needs, thoughts, beliefs, and everything else when I suffered that major and (definately) last unanswered Oneitis, was that everything I thought she was, was merely me, my wants, needs and ideals projected onto her.

In essence: In order to get The One, you must become The One. Curious to learn what woman will follow her way up with me when I do.

This should be the basis on which the DJ bible is built really. Why isn't this stickied somewhere in the bible? ;)
 

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wow this is incredible.

so after a bad and draining week, i went to school on friday repeating to myself "im the ten, im the one". singlehandly turned my week around!
 

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Yes, you have to worry about yourself first and foremost. Most marriages are no picnics. Every man always claims he has the best bride, but a couple of years into the marriage he starts complaining about her. I've only maybe two or three happy couples in my life.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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WOW! GREAT POST!!!

THIS MAKES ME WANT TO FCUK MYSELF CUZ HELL, IM THE ONE!!!:cheer:






...but no seriously, this was too self-centered.
 

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Love yourself. How true this is.
 
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