"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Official NLP/Speed Seduction Thread

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If anyone has been following my approach journal you'll see I'm currently stuck at a stage of building attraction. As many of you have heard, there is this psychological use of words called NLP which can suppsosidely make a girl feel attracted to you if done right. I have heard many things about NLP and I am hoping we can all chime in here so we can find out the truth as to whether or not this is something we should all arm ourselves with. Here is what I heard

1.) If done right you can seduce just about any girl
2.) It is a farce and doesn't work
3.) It works a little bit but not to the degree that you can seduce a woman
4.) It works only if mastered.... learning little bits and pieces won't help



So does anyone here truly have experience with this? Perhaps some have read or worked with Ross Jeffries (inventor of Speed Seduction which is predicated on NLP) perhaps others have read various patterns and items and have tried to them to success or failure....



I just need to up my game and I want to know if NLP is the way to go!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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IMO, you need congruency for NLP to work. It is like icing on the cake. If you aren't racking up the kills then NLP won't be what a great help to you because there is so much to learn and you have to be confident and actually believe in what you say. But if you are doing great and racking up the pvssy, you are already in that mindset and in that case, NLP will help you take your game to the next level.

If you are hell bent on using NLP then I suggest reading some xblitz44xx on this site. He has some good posts that aren't too in-depth but give you a slight understanding as to how and why it works. Here is one good post:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16753
 

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Thanks for the link MF. You need to get back on the AOS Study thread too :p


So what is meant by congruency? I've heard this term a lot... is it just mirroring? (taking the meaning of congruent literally) or something else?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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By congruency I mean what you believe being evident in your body (ie how you speak, body language, etc). IOW you have to KNOW that it is going to work and BELIEVE the stuff you are saying even if it seems outrageous.

Oh and Im gonna get back to the AoS thread fa sure man, haha.
 

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Microphone Fiend said:
By congruency I mean what you believe being evident in your body (ie how you speak, body language, etc). IOW you have to KNOW that it is going to work and BELIEVE the stuff you are saying even if it seems outrageous.

Oh and Im gonna get back to the AoS thread fa sure man, haha.
So in other words congruency just means confidence?
 
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