"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"the note" technique

Dutchy

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Ok I discovered that just like guys, girls also sometimes find it hard to tell you how they really feel about you. They too are affraid they will be rejected.

So one hint a girl may give you is that she says that you're a nice guy(not in the nice guy/jerk way, it is a compliment). But what does she means with this? You don't have to ask her what she means with this straight away, she'll just say it is hard to explain. So now it is up to you to find out what she means with little light questions.

Some questions you might ask are:

1. Are nice guys handsome?
2. Do you like being with nice guys?
3. Would you like to go out with nice guys?
4. Is a nice guy a nice person to talk to?
5. Do you trust a nice guy?
etc etc.

Than the point of these questions comes up. Ask her to give some guys a note from 1 (bad) to 10 (great) in how much of a nice guy they are. Ask about some guys you know so you get an idea about her taste. Then ask her what note you would get.

This is what the notes mean

1, 2, 3, 4= she is either making a joke or you can pack your bags
5, 6 = You are to average, try harder or hit the next one
7 = You are doing well, but not enough, try harder.
8 = Your doing pretty well, she like's you!
9 = Your're in! She likes you a lot, just don't mess it up.
10 = She is lying, no one is perfect. At this point she is making a joke or she is very, very desperatly in love with you

After your note you pretend there is nothing going on. Even when she gave you a 9 don't look impressed. After all, you where just interested in her idea of a nice guy.

Now comes the finisher

This is the last question to make your efforts usefull

Good finishers are:

-Would you kiss THIS nice guy?
-Would you give THIS nice guy your phone number?
-Would you like to go on a date with THIS nice guy?

Suddenly she understands your intentions and she will probably kiss you, go on a date or give you her phone number! This is why you had to play cool when she gave you a good note, she'll think you aren't interested in her but just when she thinks it is over you totally suprise her with the finisher!

You see what you just found out by these simple questions?

1. You know how she thinks about you because she told what a nice guy means to her (handsome, funny, attractive) and she just told you you are a nice guy! So you are all of this.

2. The note shows you how much she likes you, a good note can give you a lot of confidence because you are sure she likes you!

I hope this is a usefull technique

Let me know what you guys think of it. If you think it is great tell me, if you think it sucks tell me.

Try it and tell me how it worked out!

Greetz from Holland:up:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NeW2TheGame

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IMO, no, i don't see this as a "viable" technique.
Another thing is, try it out YOURSELF first, THEN if it works, tell us, simply because we are not interested in techniques that get us shotdown..

Peace.
 

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Yes i did try it out before posting it here. And I found out this girl liked me more than I thought. Gave me a big confidence boost, because I didn´t had to try anymore to make her like me.
I just wanted to know if this technique always work. But next time i´ll post my own experience with it, forgot is this time.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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oakraiderz2

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How is being called a nice guy in not a nice guy way possible? Id rather be considered a good guy, not too many of them out there so they say.
 

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Oh jeez. Another way to see if the chick wants you is to just be like

"So rumor has it that you totally want my body"

If she plays along, shes interested.
 

Cowhead418

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I don't like it, all you are doing is qualifying yourself to her. It should be the other way around.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tom Juan said:
This is bloody stupid.
Still better than lying about that you´re moving to get her in bed. .;)
 
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