The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Fireballs]

Day 15

Have been feeling really good the last 2-3 days but today is one of the bad days..I was expecting this to happen though so all good..

 

[dustmuffin]

Day 15

Have been feeling really good the last 2-3 days but today is one of the bad days..I was expecting this to happen though so all good..

I still have bad periods of time. It used to be days. Now its just hours before I can snap myself out of it. I was dumped roughly seven months ago. I am making good progress. You will too

 

[amrit]

I started no contact on 10 april 2016 so currently its my 26th day...i was in contact with his best fried but i blocked him a week ago/...he contacted my sister twice but got no call or message from him ...feeling so down and lonely.

 

[alex_in24]

Day 17

Saw her today from my window apartment . she was standing in front of my building with her face towards my window. She knows that i can see her and she sat there for 5 mins and pretended or maybe she was talking on the phone. I felt nothing. Just laughed at her coz she was trying to get the attention from me. She didnt see me that i was watching her.

 

[alex_in24]

I cant believe it. Saw her again at the mall. I was buying some steaks to eat, and she was waiting at the other fast food store. We noticed eachother but didnt have eye to eye contact. I didnt approach her nor did she.

 

[Tictac]

I cant believe it. Saw her again at the mall. I was buying some steaks to eat, and she was waiting at the other fast food store. We noticed eachother but didnt have eye to eye contact. I didnt approach her nor did she.

Indifference is your friend. Until you take no notice whatever, she's in your head.

You should be able to talk with her like anyone else you know. Instead, you're avoiding her and acting like a beat puppy.

 

[alex_in24]

Indifference is your friend. Until you take no notice whatever, she's in your head.

You should be able to talk with her like anyone else you know. Instead, you're avoiding her and acting like a beat puppy.

I didnt actually avoid her..i would have said hi or something but why should i approach her first ? that means nc rule is broken right ?

 

[Tictac]

I didnt actually avoid her..i would have said hi or something but why should i approach her first ? that means nc rule is broken right ?

Sure. But you don't have to run, hide or look at her from behind the bushes.

Take no notice. How hard isn't that?

 

[alex_in24]

Day 18

Im in fvcking hell right now. 17 days of happiness, and today on the 18th i am burning. Atm, i am sitting in my car with tears on my face. Cant help myself and stop crying. I am right in front of the swimming pool where we once were, and have some great memories from back then. Everything its fvcking different now. Shouldnt have met her yesterday. That shocked me as god damn hell. Dont have anything else to say. Tonight i got a first date with a girl a met few days ago. At least i dont wanna fvck that up. Its inevitable that i will see my ex again as she lives 300 meters away and goes the same paths that i do. God this hurts.

 

[finality]

Day 18

Im in fvcking hell right now. 17 days of happiness, and today on the 18th i am burning. Atm, i am sitting in my car with tears on my face. Cant help myself and stop crying. I am right in front of the swimming pool where we once were, and have some great memories from back then. Everything its fvcking different now. Shouldnt have met her yesterday. That shocked me as god damn hell. Dont have anything else to say. Tonight i got a first date with a girl a met few days ago. At least i dont wanna fvck that up. Its inevitable that i will see my ex again as she lives 300 meters away and goes the same paths that i do. God this hurts.

You are already on day 18 man and doing pretty well. The pain is just your body flushing out the toxins. Embrace it but don't overindulge in thoughts. Remember how you felt when you were in the gym?

 

[alex_in24]

You are already on day 18 man and doing pretty well. The pain is just your body flushing out the toxins. Embrace it but don't overindulge in thoughts. Remember how you felt when you were in the gym?

Yeah I remember...stalked her on fb and instagram for a bit now...god it hurts. But i wont contact her, she doesn't deserves me.

 

[MrWood]

still compare girls I see to her
still sad that she cant have me again
still haunted by those bright eyes, her laughter in orgasm
still she does not deserve me
still I do not deserve her disrespect and lack of integrity

NC

 

[Fireballs]

Day 17

Didn't want to start a new thread for this question so here goes..

There's a girl in my ex gf's social circle of young Doctors who happens to play in my volleyball team. I want to ask her out for a drink but not sure if it's appropriate seeings as she is social with my ex. I just really want to bang her..... Thoughts?

 

[alex_in24]

Day 17

Didn't want to start a new thread for this question so here goes..

There's a girl in my ex gf's social circle of young Doctors who happens to play in my volleyball team. I want to ask her out for a drink but not sure if it's appropriate seeings as she is social with my ex. I just really want to bang her..... Thoughts?

I would definitely ask her out if I was you. The relationship between you and ur ex is OVER. It is not of your concern of ur exs opinion. Be Chad remember?? Like the Chad who I was gym friends with, and only after 2 weeks of separation with my ex, he ****ed her without him or her giving **** about me. Thats the guy who wins at life. Be like him and ask her out.

 

[dustmuffin]

Day 17

Didn't want to start a new thread for this question so here goes..

There's a girl in my ex gf's social circle of young Doctors who happens to play in my volleyball team. I want to ask her out for a drink but not sure if it's appropriate seeings as she is social with my ex. I just really want to bang her..... Thoughts?

Ask her out. See what happens.

 

[MrWood]

I asked out my ex-wife's sister. She had an honest excuse, and my ex-wife said hello out of the blue a month later to say hi. Me and the sister always knew we were hot for each, and my wife at the time knew it.
I may or not try t ask her out again.

 

[alex_in24]

DAY 20

Last night went out with 6 girl friends and one potential plate for a drink at a bar. I had an amazing time, my confidence was at a very high level and I was very nonchalant,funny,charming- basically yesterday I was alpha as fvck. Ofc that one potential plate, hooked up with her, she couldnt get her hands off my d1ck as she was so horny about me. She loved every second that she spent in my company. In fact, everybody loved my company last night.

Enough for yesterday, lets talk about today. As usual, i still have dreams about my ex every night. Waking up every fvcking morning thinking about her. Everyday im trying to apply that alpha mentality where i can control my thoughts and emotions and most of the time it actually works, but today thats maybe not the case. Feeling some strong pain in my chest today as thoughts are coming up where I might see her these days with someone else. Wouldnt know how to react in that kind of situation because i know that i will be filled over with emotions and pain.

Almost 50 days since the break up, and as I said 20 days since last contact, things are getting better i must admit. I also found out some nasty stuff about her past, what she did to her ex boyfriend before me, and I can truly say that this girl at least back then was a SL*T! That's why she is branch swinging now with ease.

But the most painful thing that bothers me isnt that she left me for another guy, or that im jealous now, or that i miss her or that i cant fvck her anymore.. The most painful thing is that I THOUGHT I KNEW THIS GIRL. I was so convinced in that naive and calm and loving personality that she showed and couldnt even open my eyes even if i wanted to. I had some opinions about her, some beliefs that back then i thought that would never change and that are very true and realistic. And now everything falls into water. The person I thought i knew, the person i idealized and the person i honestly loved with all of my heart and all of my soul and body, just isnt real and true. And that's what sucks the most.

I dont have anything else to say really..if some1 wants to reply to give me some valuable opinion, be my guest, if not, its all good.

 

[Armourhead]

DAY 20

Last night went out with 6 girl friends and one potential plate for a drink at a bar. I had an amazing time, my confidence was at a very high level and I was very nonchalant,funny,charming- basically yesterday I was alpha as fvck. Ofc that one potential plate, hooked up with her, she couldnt get her hands off my d1ck as she was so horny about me. She loved every second that she spent in my company. In fact, everybody loved my company last night.

Enough for yesterday, lets talk about today. As usual, i still have dreams about my ex every night. Waking up every fvcking morning thinking about her. Everyday im trying to apply that alpha mentality where i can control my thoughts and emotions and most of the time it actually works, but today thats maybe not the case. Feeling some strong pain in my chest today as thoughts are coming up where I might see her these days with someone else. Wouldnt know how to react in that kind of situation because i know that i will be filled over with emotions and pain.

Almost 50 days since the break up, and as I said 20 days since last contact, things are getting better i must admit. I also found out some nasty stuff about her past, what she did to her ex boyfriend before me, and I can truly say that this girl at least back then was a SL*T! That's why she is branch swinging now with ease.

But the most painful thing that bothers me isnt that she left me for another guy, or that im jealous now, or that i miss her or that i cant fvck her anymore.. The most painful thing is that I THOUGHT I KNEW THIS GIRL. I was so convinced in that naive and calm and loving personality that she showed and couldnt even open my eyes even if i wanted to. I had some opinions about her, some beliefs that back then i thought that would never change and that are very true and realistic. And now everything falls into water. The person I thought i knew, the person i idealized and the person i honestly loved with all of my heart and all of my soul and body, just isnt real and true. And that's what sucks the most.

I dont have anything else to say really..if some1 wants to reply to give me some valuable opinion, be my guest, if not, its all good.

Welcome to red pill. I think every guy needs or will at some point in their life undergo this disillusion with life. I went through the same thing about 6 months ago. Was with plenty of women in my life then caught oneitis for a virgin for 3+ years. Unconsciously thought she was NAWALT, was disillusioned during the breakup. Just give it time and you'll recover entirely from this. Develop yourself while you recover to keep yourself busy.

You are going to emerge from this stronger than you were before, now that you know the truth. It sucks but its better to have sight in hell than to be blind in heaven.

 

[alex_in24]

This kind of manly backup, that no girl ever, even mothers, cant give to their male friends/sons, gives me so much hope and motivation and literally destroys that sadness and emptiness that i feel in my chest. It doesnt kill it instantly but with continuous reading, its fvcking melting down! And u can take that to the bank !

Better to have sight in hell ?? Well all I am going to say to the fvcking devils is: Is that all you got ?? Coz imma get through this whether they like it or not, stronger that ever, and fvck yeah, gonna keep swallowing those red pills until my gut is bloody red, and eyes wide open, even on the back!

Thanks @Armourhead, u just gave me a blast of motivation. I owe u.

 

[Fireballs]

Day 19

Today was the first day that she wasn't the first thing I thought about when I woke up.. very happy about that.

Will be a busy man this week.. Have dates set up for Wed, Thur and Fri. Looking forward to them.