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The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)
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Day 4 of NC.
Our relationship started around 18 months ago. I met her online and after talking on the phone for a week or so I took her to a pub. We went back to her place and I banged her. In the middle of banging her she x bf called and was asking her while she sounded out of breath. She continuing to jerk my off for 10 minutes while she talked to her x on the phone and then went back to banging after she reassured him that no one was over.
She was only decent.. maybe like 7. I left that patting myself on the back for another notch but didn't really have any plans to see her again. She ended up calling me and texting all the time but I was pretty busy and I blew her off most of the time. I started hanging out with her her like 5 times a month. Basically she would come over to my house and we would screw.
After a few months I was pretty much bored of her but she was a steady FWB and I didn't have any other plates so I hang out when I felt like it but blew her off at least 1/4 off the time. She ended up telling me she liked me more than Like after a few months and I was like WTF? I broke up with her and told her there are way better guys out there than me and you deserve someone better.
Then a few weeks later she just showed up at my house and one thing lead to another, we hooked up, and I was right back in the same situation. Then one night she called me at 2:30 in the morning and wanted to come over and hook up. I told her this isn't going to work if you don't respect that I wake up for work at 4:30 and broke up with her again.
I didn't hear from her for a few months and then she texted me one day, I texted back and sure enough I ended up in the same situation again.
Fast forward a few more months and I brake up with her again until she shows up at my house again and grabs my cawk as soon as she enters my place. Sure enough we start dating again and actually things go pretty good for us for a couple months but then I get anxiety about some other stuff and I brake up with her again. She tells me she loved me more than anyone she has ever met but I say its not going to work.
So this is when something switched in my head and I become ****kkkked up.
Once again she shows up at my house crying and I console her and make her feel better ect. Now I didn't know it at the time but she started dating a new guy when I broke up with her. We talk for awhile I decided we should go for a drink the next week. So we go for a drink and I take her home but she wouldn't screw me! I was like WTF and walked out. She called/texted non stop and told me how great our night was and we should do it again. During the next few weeks she flaked on me a couple times (obviously she was with her knew bf) and I started wondering WTF was up. This girl used to be in love with me.
Eventually I start sleeping with her again but she seems distant/not answering texts as soon as she used to/didn't seem as attracted to me as she used to. This drove me crazy. I told her that it felt like someone else was in the picture but she assured me nobody was and I feel for it.
A couple weeks later a day before we had planned to take a trip together I asked to see her phone and she said I wouldn't like what I would see and then she told me that she was seeing someone else. I told her we are done ect and then she sent me texts of her telling the other guy that it was done and she only wants to be with me.
I end up taking her back but at this time I develop insane anxiety about the situation and as it turns out she kept banging the other guy. I find out and she told me that she couldn't let him go ect and somehow manipulates me to staying with her. I walked away from this women so many times but for some reason I couldn't walk away any more once she lost interest and went with another guy.
So we are back together and she is telling me how much she loves me ect ect ect but find out that she is still talking to this guy so she breaks it off with him again..showed me all the texts saying they couldn't even be friends ect.
But then a few weeks later she tells me its over. And I find out a bit later that she is with the other guy. Basically she was leaving my house and going right to his house.
I have no idea why I care about this women at all. I walked soooo many times and it wasn't until the very end that I told her I loved her. Its like a bad energy came over me and I become addicted to the pain she put me through.
Basically the last 3 months our relationship has been beyond crazy.. she called/texted me as of 4 days ago (just random texts that mean nothing) but I didn't respond. I still don't know why I love her. It doesn't make sense. Anytime the phone rings I hope its her. I wake up in the morning wondering if she texted me. I've become obsessed.
Anyways.. today is day 4.
I would love some insight into WTF is wrong with me.
Our relationship started around 18 months ago. I met her online and after talking on the phone for a week or so I took her to a pub. We went back to her place and I banged her. In the middle of banging her she x bf called and was asking her while she sounded out of breath. She continuing to jerk my off for 10 minutes while she talked to her x on the phone and then went back to banging after she reassured him that no one was over.
She was only decent.. maybe like 7. I left that patting myself on the back for another notch but didn't really have any plans to see her again. She ended up calling me and texting all the time but I was pretty busy and I blew her off most of the time. I started hanging out with her her like 5 times a month. Basically she would come over to my house and we would screw.
After a few months I was pretty much bored of her but she was a steady FWB and I didn't have any other plates so I hang out when I felt like it but blew her off at least 1/4 off the time. She ended up telling me she liked me more than Like after a few months and I was like WTF? I broke up with her and told her there are way better guys out there than me and you deserve someone better.
Then a few weeks later she just showed up at my house and one thing lead to another, we hooked up, and I was right back in the same situation. Then one night she called me at 2:30 in the morning and wanted to come over and hook up. I told her this isn't going to work if you don't respect that I wake up for work at 4:30 and broke up with her again.
I didn't hear from her for a few months and then she texted me one day, I texted back and sure enough I ended up in the same situation again.
Fast forward a few more months and I brake up with her again until she shows up at my house again and grabs my cawk as soon as she enters my place. Sure enough we start dating again and actually things go pretty good for us for a couple months but then I get anxiety about some other stuff and I brake up with her again. She tells me she loved me more than anyone she has ever met but I say its not going to work.
So this is when something switched in my head and I become ****kkkked up.
Once again she shows up at my house crying and I console her and make her feel better ect. Now I didn't know it at the time but she started dating a new guy when I broke up with her. We talk for awhile I decided we should go for a drink the next week. So we go for a drink and I take her home but she wouldn't screw me! I was like WTF and walked out. She called/texted non stop and told me how great our night was and we should do it again. During the next few weeks she flaked on me a couple times (obviously she was with her knew bf) and I started wondering WTF was up. This girl used to be in love with me.
Eventually I start sleeping with her again but she seems distant/not answering texts as soon as she used to/didn't seem as attracted to me as she used to. This drove me crazy. I told her that it felt like someone else was in the picture but she assured me nobody was and I feel for it.
A couple weeks later a day before we had planned to take a trip together I asked to see her phone and she said I wouldn't like what I would see and then she told me that she was seeing someone else. I told her we are done ect and then she sent me texts of her telling the other guy that it was done and she only wants to be with me.
I end up taking her back but at this time I develop insane anxiety about the situation and as it turns out she kept banging the other guy. I find out and she told me that she couldn't let him go ect and somehow manipulates me to staying with her. I walked away from this women so many times but for some reason I couldn't walk away any more once she lost interest and went with another guy.
So we are back together and she is telling me how much she loves me ect ect ect but find out that she is still talking to this guy so she breaks it off with him again..showed me all the texts saying they couldn't even be friends ect.
But then a few weeks later she tells me its over. And I find out a bit later that she is with the other guy. Basically she was leaving my house and going right to his house.
I have no idea why I care about this women at all. I walked soooo many times and it wasn't until the very end that I told her I loved her. Its like a bad energy came over me and I become addicted to the pain she put me through.
Basically the last 3 months our relationship has been beyond crazy.. she called/texted me as of 4 days ago (just random texts that mean nothing) but I didn't respond. I still don't know why I love her. It doesn't make sense. Anytime the phone rings I hope its her. I wake up in the morning wondering if she texted me. I've become obsessed.
Anyways.. today is day 4.
I would love some insight into WTF is wrong with me.
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searching solace
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To be honest, it sounds like you kind of deserve all this. I must have read that you broke up with this girl at least 4/5 times, whenever you felt like doing so. And now you wonder why she flakes on you and doesn't give a crap anymore?
Yeah, she sounds pretty unhinged but so do you.
I've been in a similar situation. You think they'll always come back, the dynamic of the relationship conditions you to think so, but eventually, they don't anymore and that's that. But, it's only day 4, which is nothing (I'm at 2 months now), so she may still hit you up and start the dance up all over again.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
some update.
No contact from the ex, and I am actually not expecting any. She might try, it will depend on the intent if I would even respond, or engage (I started NC after last talk on Skype). I realize at this point that I cant take her back no matter how much she would want or I want. There is too much damage from dishonesty, loyalty and basic respect that shows the lack of inherent character that this women possesses. I would be lowering my standards that I value and demand of myself and my close friends.
Had a reunion with the ex-ex last night. She is the one that I left for the ex, dumped her 2 years ago without much warning, swung a branch to the younger and hotter fake shell of ex.
She is in town for work, extending her weekend to meet up. This is our 2nd meeting since we split, the previous 5mo after our split. We had tried sex back then, but I couldnt really get into her at all since my upgrade was of substantual SMV. Had a light snack and she obviously wanted a few drinks to lube up, there was light kissing and she drops the tongue. She is still in love with me, but wants a commitment and not FWB or FB. She said we wont have sex, heh, I just said "ok". We went up to her room, I told her I am spending the night (I live a mile away from hotel). We start making out, she still says no sex, ok.. knowing she will break.. which happened. She has said she has a relationship, I find this hard to believe because she was ****ing tight every inch, orgasmd nearly before I was fully deep and had already *** once from finger.. 39yo. My first fvck in 2mo after the ex. She is here for 2 more days...
We are taking this a little like a FWB to protect ourselves but it is not easy... this is a woman I literally killed emotionally when we split, but that split had been handled properly direct with closure. I already know she can give me exactly the kind of care I am looking for until I die, and is possibly one reason I went looking for something else... just like me to my ex.
NC 30/15
No contact from the ex, and I am actually not expecting any. She might try, it will depend on the intent if I would even respond, or engage (I started NC after last talk on Skype). I realize at this point that I cant take her back no matter how much she would want or I want. There is too much damage from dishonesty, loyalty and basic respect that shows the lack of inherent character that this women possesses. I would be lowering my standards that I value and demand of myself and my close friends.
Had a reunion with the ex-ex last night. She is the one that I left for the ex, dumped her 2 years ago without much warning, swung a branch to the younger and hotter fake shell of ex.
She is in town for work, extending her weekend to meet up. This is our 2nd meeting since we split, the previous 5mo after our split. We had tried sex back then, but I couldnt really get into her at all since my upgrade was of substantual SMV. Had a light snack and she obviously wanted a few drinks to lube up, there was light kissing and she drops the tongue. She is still in love with me, but wants a commitment and not FWB or FB. She said we wont have sex, heh, I just said "ok". We went up to her room, I told her I am spending the night (I live a mile away from hotel). We start making out, she still says no sex, ok.. knowing she will break.. which happened. She has said she has a relationship, I find this hard to believe because she was ****ing tight every inch, orgasmd nearly before I was fully deep and had already *** once from finger.. 39yo. My first fvck in 2mo after the ex. She is here for 2 more days...
We are taking this a little like a FWB to protect ourselves but it is not easy... this is a woman I literally killed emotionally when we split, but that split had been handled properly direct with closure. I already know she can give me exactly the kind of care I am looking for until I die, and is possibly one reason I went looking for something else... just like me to my ex.
NC 30/15
CuddleJunkie
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I just felt like sharing some hope with the guys doing NC. When this girl cheated on me I threw all of her pictures to the trash lol. Today I was doing some general cleaning and found another one of her, and I felt nothing. I just was like "she really looked like this?", looked back at my past good memories with her, put the pic back when it was and keep on with my day.
There is hope guys, you can get back on your feet and stronger than you were before. You can totally become unaffected by her. You need time. You need to keep the NC on and let time heal your wounds.
Trust on yourselves guys, you can do this, if I could, you can. I was a ****in cuddlejunkie, when she left me and I made the account for this forum what was I thinking? I was thinking "I miss cuddling on bed so ****ing much", and named myself cuddlejunkie. How ****ing pathetic is that? Lmao. Now I'm on the best state I've been in my whole life.
You just need time bro, hold on there.
There is hope guys, you can get back on your feet and stronger than you were before. You can totally become unaffected by her. You need time. You need to keep the NC on and let time heal your wounds.
Trust on yourselves guys, you can do this, if I could, you can. I was a ****in cuddlejunkie, when she left me and I made the account for this forum what was I thinking? I was thinking "I miss cuddling on bed so ****ing much", and named myself cuddlejunkie. How ****ing pathetic is that? Lmao. Now I'm on the best state I've been in my whole life.
You just need time bro, hold on there.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
You met your ex online. You've met this replacement online....
Like shopping at fvcking Sears.
What do you mean by this?
The new girl isn't a replacement either. She's better looking (she's a model) and treats me amazing but I don't even want to bang her (I do but I imagine I'm with my ex). I only want to bang my ex, I think about her 24/7.
I know I have a terrible case of oneitis
The problem I don't know if I want to be cured...
Obviously I have some sort of mental problem
Tictac
Banned
Enjoy or suffer. Your choice.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
the ex-ex is still quite in love with me it seems, she has a bf of 8mo... lol.
She is a HB7 long legs and slender Russian 39yo
Tried to raise her value to me, talking about some rich German dude with expensive cars etc, asked to marry her, said she isnt interested in him sexually... lol. I reacted nothing to this.
(I dumped her for ex hottie v2.0). She wants 100% of me or nothing...
I think I realize why I dumped her now, she cums to easy and I was bored.
This was our first reunion in 2yr, and she had a few things to say...
there was alot of inside info about women that leaked out...
1. dont boast about yourself. One day with her I had been doing some work (i am a network security expert) and had just cracked my target, very complicated, and I exclaimed "I am so fvking smart". She told me when I said that she was disgusted, "that if you love yourself that much, you cant love another"
2. it is bad showing you are/were emotional affected by another woman (recent ex)...
3. she wants a commitment, or just nasty sex, nothing in between.
4. if your phone Skype, whatsapp, SMS, she will ask if those are other women/gf. DO NOT SHOW HER YOUR PHONE... "dont show me inside your world"
5. she does not want to hear about YOUR emotions
NC 32/17
She is a HB7 long legs and slender Russian 39yo
Tried to raise her value to me, talking about some rich German dude with expensive cars etc, asked to marry her, said she isnt interested in him sexually... lol. I reacted nothing to this.
(I dumped her for ex hottie v2.0). She wants 100% of me or nothing...
I think I realize why I dumped her now, she cums to easy and I was bored.
This was our first reunion in 2yr, and she had a few things to say...
there was alot of inside info about women that leaked out...
1. dont boast about yourself. One day with her I had been doing some work (i am a network security expert) and had just cracked my target, very complicated, and I exclaimed "I am so fvking smart". She told me when I said that she was disgusted, "that if you love yourself that much, you cant love another"
2. it is bad showing you are/were emotional affected by another woman (recent ex)...
3. she wants a commitment, or just nasty sex, nothing in between.
4. if your phone Skype, whatsapp, SMS, she will ask if those are other women/gf. DO NOT SHOW HER YOUR PHONE... "dont show me inside your world"
5. she does not want to hear about YOUR emotions
NC 32/17
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The internet is the easy way out. You wrote a post about your ex and to tell you
the truth I stopped reading after "I met her online......."
Ask yourself what woman needs to put herself on the internet to sell herself? The type of woman who's
not getting picked up in real or/and the type that is addicted to the attention. Bottom of the barrel ****e.
The mentality becomes worse online.
Anyway, you can't stand to be alone. And then when you do manage to fill in the silence with a replacement you whine for the one that you cannot have. This is your inner high chair tyrant at work.
What will you do if the new one drops you? Go back on line and replace her? And then if she drops
you? Go back on line and replace her? Again and again....
Get some male friends. Start a meet up group in the city your in. A meet up group for wingmen. Go out with a group of men and pick up women. Just for fun. No expectations.
The problem is your way too needy right now. You need to learn to be single. Be comfortable being single.
In fact, if you haven't already seen the movie "Swingers", go watch it now. You will see how you
are behaving and hopefully it will make you cringe and wake you up.
Day 64
So actually I think that I nearly forget her. A few days ago a I remembered her and missed her, but then after reading all the red flags and stupid things she had done (I wrote them in a paper so I could read it) it passed away the feeling. Im pretty sure that I don't missed her, only the feeling to be happy with someone that nearly understand me.
I erased her in nearly all my social media. And only yesterday, I heard about the new guy she was dating, it was in a friend party, he showed up and after 20 minutes, my friends saw her crying near the river (She was a magnet to a whole new level of jerks, when we were talking, she told me that she always liked me, she thought that something was missing in her, because she didn't know why I didn't like her. Also she saw me like someone she could have a future and children (I was surprised by that answer).
The last thing I've known from her was from a party last week, we were dancing like 3 feet from each other, she with some of her friends and I with my plate, she saw me kissed her and she stopped dancing and went outside.
Actually a lot of my circle friends know that I was a "good" boy to them, so usually my plates I had them outside my circle, so for them it was a little surprise doing that and then taking her to her house.
About my plate, I spun them all. One was way to crazy in comparison to my ex and the other was a HB8 but one of the most boring person I've ever met.
At the end, thanks guys. I was way to beta before, in these two months I manage to have 2 decent plates and wasn't that difficult
Also sorry for the bad English, I can't write it without having some grammar mistakes.
So actually I think that I nearly forget her. A few days ago a I remembered her and missed her, but then after reading all the red flags and stupid things she had done (I wrote them in a paper so I could read it) it passed away the feeling. Im pretty sure that I don't missed her, only the feeling to be happy with someone that nearly understand me.
I erased her in nearly all my social media. And only yesterday, I heard about the new guy she was dating, it was in a friend party, he showed up and after 20 minutes, my friends saw her crying near the river (She was a magnet to a whole new level of jerks, when we were talking, she told me that she always liked me, she thought that something was missing in her, because she didn't know why I didn't like her. Also she saw me like someone she could have a future and children (I was surprised by that answer).
The last thing I've known from her was from a party last week, we were dancing like 3 feet from each other, she with some of her friends and I with my plate, she saw me kissed her and she stopped dancing and went outside.
Actually a lot of my circle friends know that I was a "good" boy to them, so usually my plates I had them outside my circle, so for them it was a little surprise doing that and then taking her to her house.
About my plate, I spun them all. One was way to crazy in comparison to my ex and the other was a HB8 but one of the most boring person I've ever met.
At the end, thanks guys. I was way to beta before, in these two months I manage to have 2 decent plates and wasn't that difficult
Also sorry for the bad English, I can't write it without having some grammar mistakes.
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I've learned that I have insecurities, always trying to
I don't know what I learned, maybe to stop playing games when someone has given their heart to you?
Day 1
Dumped yesterday. It wasn't a bad ending to the relationship of 2 years so I do feel a bit guilty for ignoring her text last night. She is looking after my dog until I'm back from work which is when I'll move my stuff out and my dog (she will be away so I won't have to see her) and she sent me a text saying my dog is being cheeky and sent a photo of my dog to me. It was really tough to ignore and delete but I feel it's what needs to be done.
Dumped yesterday. It wasn't a bad ending to the relationship of 2 years so I do feel a bit guilty for ignoring her text last night. She is looking after my dog until I'm back from work which is when I'll move my stuff out and my dog (she will be away so I won't have to see her) and she sent me a text saying my dog is being cheeky and sent a photo of my dog to me. It was really tough to ignore and delete but I feel it's what needs to be done.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
either I hate myself for judging women based on looks first, sex second and do they measure up compared to my NC ex, or do I just prefer young sexy women in general and accept no less than gold for a starting point?
Only after this do I start to look at personality..
ex-ex is 39 HB7 thin long legs awesome in jeans, cute... I seem to not be attracted, she truly loves me.
but the ex was 32yo HB8 wth 18yo tits/pvssy.... I cant quit this cheating, disrespectful idolization
my ****ing idiot brain
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NC 33/18
Only after this do I start to look at personality..
ex-ex is 39 HB7 thin long legs awesome in jeans, cute... I seem to not be attracted, she truly loves me.
but the ex was 32yo HB8 wth 18yo tits/pvssy.... I cant quit this cheating, disrespectful idolization
my ****ing idiot brain
65/52
NC 33/18
Day 2 of NC.
I had blood tests done the other day and got my results today. I thought I must be ultra low in testosterone or something since I've become such a needy little b!tch in terms of my emotions but I'm actually significantly higher than normal. I'm in the top 1%. My dr asked if I was on juice lol.
I had blood tests done the other day and got my results today. I thought I must be ultra low in testosterone or something since I've become such a needy little b!tch in terms of my emotions but I'm actually significantly higher than normal. I'm in the top 1%. My dr asked if I was on juice lol.
Tictac
Banned
You make this look like a prison term rather than how long you've been out.
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