The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Reykhel]

Times haven't changed in dating. The problem is you allare picking the wrong girls which is why you resort to Don Juan tricks. Where are you meeting these girls? In a nightclub? Seriously? Get out your tricks to play with her like a boy.
Seriously dude, its all about high self esteem and confidence. You need nothing more. When you have high self esteem--everything you do is attractive.
Do you want to play little boy don juan jedi mind tricks with a girl your whole life or until she gets old? Seriously?
Grab your brass balls and be a man. BE STRAIGHT UP HONEST WITH A WOMAN. If you like her tell her. If she pissed you off tell her.
Simple as that!

To whom was your absurd soliloquy referring to, Lady Macbeth...

So let's see, you're on a Don Juan website and your critisising the Don Juan way of you life, based
on your own ignorant misconceptions and misunderstandings of what the DJ way is about....???

It's like your sitting alone at your table in a Japanese restaurant, arguing biligerently and incoherently about how this Japanese restaurant should just get a grip and serve good 'ol Sloppy Joe's and Fries....

Sounds like trolling to me....

And your rambling about "little boy don juan tricks" and "be a man", simply reveals the bytch troll that you are. I had a feeling you were a woman...

Feminist trolling....

You do realise this thread is "the no contact challenge thread"? Nobody on this thread is advocating going no contact in order to win the girl back. You do realise that? Your posting your feminist troll posts of "be a man" in a thread where a lot of new members come after a breakup and they are trying to move beyond the breakup and where other members are offering encouragement and tools in which to cope and grow...........you do realise that no?

So, you still did not answer my question....

APART FROM TROLLING, WHY THE FVCK IS YOUR BYTCH ASS HERE

 

[Jack Hensy]

I am challenging don juan because I have been on and off this website for years. I have tried the techniques in the don juan bible, experienced them, used them and gamed women having "mediocre" success. I have studied and read the don juan bible at least 2-3 times. (There are some nuggets of truth in DJ bible.) However, I discovered that my own insecurities about myself were the reasons I drove women away.
When I started working on self-love, self-admiration, smiling more, feeling good, accepting myself and my faults, giving up my need for women, and working on my own self-worth that is when I started attracting women --- and friends, kids, pets, and even strangers too. I smile at everything and feel good inside.
I decided the don juan techniques were nothing more than short-term gimmicks(much like a magician) to game others which serves a purpose in a bar or night club.
Out of self love my confidence and self esteem has risen. I have no need to game women anymore because I am the prize. Lucky for them.
When you give up the need for something--that's when you attract others to you.

 

[Skyline]

Day one.

 

[Stigma92]

She texted me after 11 days of NC i saw her in the city today when i was going home. I passed through mall to see couple of my friends and there she was. We looked each other twice and nothing else. She was there some time and then went home. We are neighbours. She texted me about 30 mins later saying where am i and that she wanted to see me and talk to me about something. It was suprise. Im almost healed and used to the feeling of her not beinh in my life. I cut off my dependancy of her, but im wondering what she wants to talk about. I already was building my life again... Maybe she just wants attention or just wants to talk about something so her guilt goes easy. Idk.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

hey stigma92, its a trap. Seriously. She wants to take you into her orbit again, don't put yourself in that situation. Her anxiety levels are through the roof because you are moving on and she wants to feel validated again.
Keep this on brother, you are doing very good.

 

[Skyline]

Day 2 of no contact.

I saw her in class today and didn't really talk to her at all. She also messaged me the day before about some event but I didn't reply.

It's kind of now hitting me that I might be alone for a while. I'm not sure what will happen.

I also had my vape confiscated. I ended up punching a window and yelling at my friend about it. It's pretty obvious that she's affecting me in other areas, there's no way I would get that p*ssed off if it were another story.

Maybe it's because it really helped with my anxiety, not sure. But as of right now, I'm just feeling a little lonely.

 

[Skyline]

Day 3

Woke up feeling lonely and that lead to anxiety. Was trying really hard to get out of bed and walk around but ended up laying there for about an hour and a half.

I eventually got up and started doing stuff but was still feeling like crap. I went out with some friends and it helped get stuff off of my mind.

I also chatted up this cute dark red haired girl. It wasn't until she said she was almost in high school that I realized that she was only 13-14, I swear to god she looked at least 17... I ended up keeping it casual and left.

Neither one of us contacted each other today.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Day 3

Woke up feeling lonely and that lead to anxiety. Was trying really hard to get out of bed and walk around but ended up laying there for about an hour and a half.

I eventually got up and started doing stuff but was still feeling like crap. I went out with some friends and it helped get stuff off of my mind.

I also chatted up this cute dark red haired girl. It wasn't until she said she was almost in high school that I realized that she was only 13-14, I swear to god she looked at least 17... I ended up keeping it casual and left.

Neither one of us contacted each other today.

Be very careful with staying in bed. When you are in that state of mind where you are not sleeping but neither you are awake is difficult to control your thoughts, so you can really fall into very depressing ones. I know how difficult it is, but just kick yourself in the ass and take a shower or something.

 

[Skyline]

Be very careful with staying in bed. When you are in that state of mind where you are not sleeping but neither you are awake is difficult to control your thoughts, so you can really fall into very depressing ones. I know how difficult it is, but just kick yourself in the ass and take a shower or something.

Yeah I noticed that too. I sometimes avoid laying down when my anxiety kicks in for that reason. I'm trying to go out and drive, go for a walk in the park, or even work out.

 

[Floydispink01]

I've done NC twice in my life. The first time was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Took me about a year to fully get over her. The second time was initially just as hard but the pain subsided a lot quicker. The reason it disappeared quicker was the experiences of the first time. What hurt then has now helped me. You become hardened and you quickly realise the pain will pass. It's temporary.

Here are some of the things I did during my first NC which held me back. Bear in mind I never contacted her once and she later tried contacting me 6 months later solely for her own ego. I never responded. Here they are:

1. I checked her FB pretty much every day for the first few months. Every post she updated I figured was about me and me only. Funny how your ego works.

2. I believed NC would bring her back. I checked my phone constantly to wait for her message. It never came. Only when I was past the point of caring and knew her real intentions.

3. Reading every 'walk away to peak her interest' article. This simply elevated her to 'queen of the world' in my mind. Couldn't be further from the truth. Once your two friends 'distance' and 'time' step in you realise she isn't special. Just another girl.


Now here are some tips. They may seem obvious but they certainly helped me:

1. Listen to new music - Discover new bands and artists.
2. Buy new clothes.
3. Watch a new TV show.
4. Try new exercises in the gym.
5. Learn a new skill.

Forget about women initially. Focus on new things. The idea is simply that your teaching your mind to engage in the present. Not in the past. The past is gone. You might think your wicked ex is hurting you which she is of course. But in the future, you will realise she actually gave you a gift. It might not seem like a gift now but it will be when you stick to NC.

That gift is wisdom.

Good luck.

 

[_Dream_]

Day 34
2.5 months after break up

Im feeling a bit down so i figured i could write some feels here to ease myself.
Im constantly meeting new girls, flirting with them, im incredibly good at opening social groups. I fvck this one girl once a week. But i miss my ex in a sense like you miss a good friend.

Just the other day I went to a big comic book store and saw so many amazing things. I bought bunch of books and awesome merchandise and had one of the best days ever. But when i came home and started uploading pictures and describing all i experience there was this giant hole.

Those are the type of things that I would talk with my ex about, indulge in nerding out together. Aside from all her bull****, she was a awesome person to have fun with.

Let me put it like this. Imagine having an awesome friend for years, he shares your interests and you have great time together. One day that friend does some big bull**** that can’t be forgotten and you can never go back like it was. Sure, youre better off without him, but you still MISS the awesome times you had and most of people seem boring in comparison.

I feel like im either ending up with pretty girls that share no common interest with me, or with nerdy awesome girl that have worse body than my ex ( and I feel like downgrading is an insult to myself )

Blahh…most girl seem so boring

 

[Skyline]

Day 4

It really sucks knowing I have to move on. I shouldn't have invested so much in this girl who wasn't even 100% interested but I did. I knew I was second but I honestly didn't think I would loose to her first choice. But I did...

It just goes to show that even with the best game you just can't win sometimes, attraction isn't logical after all.

I woke up feeling o.k. Went out and had a decent time and later spent the day with my buds. She posts stuff on Snapchat and I tried hard not to look but I ended up looking. Hardly any damage but I'm obviously still hooked.

Neither one of us contacted each other today.

 

[Floydispink01]

Day 4

It really sucks knowing I have to move on. I shouldn't have invested so much in this girl who wasn't even 100% interested but I did. I knew I was second but I honestly didn't think I would loose to her first choice. But I did...

It just goes to show that even with the best game you just can't win sometimes, attraction isn't logical after all.

I woke up feeling o.k. Went out and had a decent time and later spent the day with my buds. She posts stuff on Snapchat and I tried hard not to look but I ended up looking. Hardly any damage but I'm obviously still hooked.

Neither one of us contacted each other today.

Firstly, I would delete her snapchat or block her if it has that option. Continually seeing her mundane posts serves no purpose for you. I guarantee it will hold you back, however trivial. Don’t play into her world.

Secondly, don’t feel ashamed for investing 100% in her, you should be proud of yourself for doing so. Proud that you acted with honesty and went after what you wanted. Not many men have the b.llocks to risk themselves with a girl they like. They would happily obsess from a distance without acting on it. You went for it. You didn’t get the result you wanted but there are hundreds, thousands and millions more girls out there.

Girls realise this more than men hence their little games, competitive nature, make up blah blah blah. Her rejection should spark a realization in you. You should realise that all those unique special moments you shared were tossed aside akin to her swiping left on tinder. Brutal world - That’s how fickle they are. So maintain your honesty and dignity and walk away with pride.

Nothing like self-respect dude. Trumps everything in life…..and who will recognise this quality. The silly little ex, other girls…..and most importantly the mirror you look in.




Here's another tip -

This will separate you from the average man after a break up – DO NOT try to make her jealous. She will see right through it. Women are not stupid. They live and breathe this stuff. They are not professionals at observing male behaviour. They are Experts.

When you try to make her jealous you are basically reinforcing her in your mind. You are being dishonest with your actions and thoughts. It will hurt you and prolong the pain.

Just silently agree with her rejection…..and walk. Silence is golden.

Jealousy only occurs when she realises she has lost you, and you don’t even have the intention to make her feel this way.

Silence and walking away for your own good is the quickest and most effective path to this state of mind.

 

[Skyline]

Firstly, I would delete her snapchat or block her if it has that option. Continually seeing her mundane posts serves no purpose for you. I guarantee it will hold you back, however trivial. Don’t play into her world.

Secondly, don’t feel ashamed for investing 100% in her, you should be proud of yourself for doing so. Proud that you acted with honesty and went after what you wanted. Not many men have the b.llocks to risk themselves with a girl they like. They would happily obsess from a distance without acting on it. You went for it. You didn’t get the result you wanted but there are hundreds, thousands and millions more girls out there.

Girls realise this more than men hence their little games, competitive nature, make up blah blah blah. Her rejection should spark a realization in you. You should realise that all those unique special moments you shared were tossed aside akin to her swiping left on tinder. Brutal world - That’s how fickle they are. So maintain your honesty and dignity and walk away with pride.

Nothing like self-respect dude. Trumps everything in life…..and who will recognise this quality. The silly little ex, other girls…..and most importantly the mirror you look in.




Here's another tip -

This will separate you from the average man after a break up – DO NOT try to make her jealous. She will see right through it. Women are not stupid. They live and breathe this stuff. They are not professionals at observing male behaviour. They are Experts.

When you try to make her jealous you are basically reinforcing her in your mind. You are being dishonest with your actions and thoughts. It will hurt you and prolong the pain.

Just silently agree with her rejection…..and walk. Silence is golden.

Jealousy only occurs when she realises she has lost you, and you don’t even have the intention to make her feel this way.

Silence and walking away for your own good is the quickest and most effective path to this state of mind.

Thanks for the advice.

I do see her often in my class and I most likely will end up talking to her casually because we do a lot of group work, how would you handle a situation like that?

I was thinking to keep it short and simple, no flirting or anything involved.

 

[Floydispink01]

Thanks for the advice.

I do see her often in my class and I most likely will end up talking to her casually because we do a lot of group work, how would you handle a situation like that?

I was thinking to keep it short and simple, no flirting or anything involved.

Ok, When you do happen to bump into her in class just respond with courtesy and politeness. No confrontation, feelings, venting or any other female trait. Remember you are a man.

If she starts pushing for a reaction from you, just brush it off with a 'cool, yeah whatever' type of attitude. You are busy with other priorities and she has fallen down the bottom of your list. Treat her like a plain jane or like a guy.

If she has any type of interest in you then she will likely get confused and will have to suffer wondering why she wasn't good enough to bring that kind of reaction out of you. But of course your not doing this to win her back or revenge. Your doing this for your own piece of mind and to gain clarity. This will filter into other aspects of your life and other girls will pick up on your self belief and sense of value.

Once the cloud start to disperse in your head then you can start exploring your options with the other girls in your school. Don't try to make her jealous by talking to these girls. Talk to other girls because you want to.

For example - let's say your in one of your classes and you notice the ex is sitting in the corner with her friends. You don't acknowledge her but you both know your in each other's presence. You then start chatting to one of the girls at the front and then subtlety look back at the ex with a quick glimpse. Can you see how your contradicting yourself with your actions? The ex or her friend will pick up on this and label you a chump. You talk to the girl in the front because you want to and continue to proceed what your doing. Never look for approval.

Act not react.

 

[Armourhead]

Thanks for the advice.
I do see her often in my class and I most likely will end up talking to her casually because we do a lot of group work, how would you handle a situation like that?
I was thinking to keep it short and simple, no flirting or anything involved.

Treat her as you would treat a girl who is a 2/10. Ignore Ignore Ignore. If she pesters you for anything keep it short but polite then excuse yourself back to your own world. Keep busy with your own things, even when she's around.

 

[Skyline]

Day 5

Still feel like crap knowing I put some much effort and got my hopes up for this girl. I still think we would be great together... I'm still thinking about her every now and then.

Anywho, I went back and read Anti-Dump Machine and realized that I did all of my attraction parts right, but just with the wrong girl. She wasn't on board 100% was my issue, no matter what I did I just couldn't raise her interest because of the other dude she wanted.

It really is true though, once a girl has a mental picture of you, or someone else, it's almost impossible to change that image unless she is proven by him that he isn't what she thought he was.

I'm looking forward to start approaching again, I need to weed out low interest girls.

Neither one of us contacted each other today.

I did not look at her story on Snapchat either, however I did browse her Facebook page and old conversations.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

****. I was looking of a pic of myself with beard that a girl asked for and I saw pics of my ex. I didn't remember them being there. A rush of feelings and anxiety invaded my body. I don't know what happened to me but I looked into the sex vids and pics we had. I feel like **** right now. I'm going for a walk so these feelings vanish. Fuk this ****, I was doing really good, I thought about her maybe once a day and I would quickly get my mind to think about something else. I was almost totally clear. Right now I want to call her and tell her how could she treat me like she did, I just want to tell her what I think about her, as I did not when I found about her cheating. I despise myself for this. How can I be this beta. . I feel like ****, but I know this will only last for a couple of hours.

So day 1 I guess lol.

 

[Armourhead]

Best thing that's helped me so far is keeping busy. Even if you all you can manage is to play a video game or listen to music or watch a tv show, if it takes your mind off her you are golden. Of course its even better if its something you can do for self improvement but let your best friends, time and distance, help you out. The longer you go the easier it gets guys

 

[Skyline]

Day 6

Very difficult day for me. Saw her in class and was okay, didn't talk to each other at all. Went home and basically couldn't get her off my mind and ended up being really depressed over it.

I went out with friends later on and that seemed to help out a lot. I know she'll come back around, they always do. Just right now I need to move on.

Neither one of us contacted us today.