She says..."Yea thats fine. Ill b there"...ready to get this **** done and move on. Someone who loves you doesn't disrespect you the way she has me...even in the worst of circumstances. Children are truly a blessing. However, this **** is for the birds. I'm to the point now where I love her and all but have lost a tremendous amount of respect for her. Set ones I think we view others higher than what they truly are. We want to see the good in people. When they show the ugly side of themselves...it's a shock. Anyways, wish me luck at this parenting meeting. Going in with an agenda and a calm mind. Willing to be more than fair and flexible but I'm not goin to get disrespected again!
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Lozboss
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Let us know how it goes. Got my fingers crossed for you bro.drake33 said:
You'll be ok mate- beforehand just take a deep breath and exhale. Turn up exactly on time or slightly late- waiting will kill your mind.
If at anypoint you feel yourself overcome with emotion then just take a breath and count to ten before replying- keep it strong and silent.
Let her do the blabbing- you state what you wish and what your demands are. What is negotiable and what is not.
This should be a handshake agreement meeting- not a reunion.
After go straight to the gym if you can- get out any emotions you have bottled up during it.
I will. I plan on taking in a copy of an agenda of the topics we need to discuss, go through them point by point, try to leave a few untouched maybe, and jet out of there in 45 minutes or less. Like you said, she needs to know my time is precious. "Thanks for meeting me" *handshake* GHOST!Lozboss said:
Day 16
I can sleep normal again, but I stood up today and feel lonely. Not knowing what the future will bring is hard. Also thinking that it's over and wondering how it would have been if we were still together is difficult, I still can't put my head completely around it I guess.
It was my birthday yesterday and she texted me happy birthday, didn't respond to it.
I can sleep normal again, but I stood up today and feel lonely. Not knowing what the future will bring is hard. Also thinking that it's over and wondering how it would have been if we were still together is difficult, I still can't put my head completely around it I guess.
It was my birthday yesterday and she texted me happy birthday, didn't respond to it.
TheMonkeyKing
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You can look to the future with fear and anxiety, or you can embrace the infinite opportunities that are now afforded to you. As an aside, no woman will appreciate when a man makes her his sole purpose for existing. Get used to the idea.SayWhat said:
You've done really well this week though. Sometimes the best example is first hand experience. It's done now though aand you can move along.
Belated happy birthday.
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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
It's hard to fathom right now, but you have no idea what life has in store for you! You can't dwell on the what ifs and hypotheticals...what's done is done. Learn from it and don't make those mistakes in the future. What if you guys were still together? Grow and learn from it. Lonely is a normal feeling with this crap. I was just thinking about myself just a month ago yesterday...it was a Saturday and I literally sobbed like a baby while typing a letter to my ex for about 2 and a half hours. No joke. No lie. I felt sooo alone. I missed her and my daughter. I went out that night and smashed some vag and turned around and smashed some more the next day. I still felt alone and down but hey, we can't sit and dwell on it. That's what they want. Every day gets better and better. I'm not going to feed you a bunch of that "the sun will come out tomorrow" bull**** because this **** sucks...bad...but it DOES get better. Way to stay strong and not text back...my birthday is next Friday...wondering if I'll get that textSayWhat said:
Lozboss
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Social- I feel for you buddy- i'm so sorry, i know it must be hard. Very good of you to write such a nice message to her.
I think I've decided to go NC again with my ex after our lunch yesterday- her wanting to take things slowly stinks of her not being really interested and it's hurting me to do this interaction.
Tonight I feeling a crushing loneliness. It will pass and I'll get on with my life, just sucks.
My ex coming back into my life half way (not fully committed) has made me insecure and unconfident- A man I AM NOT and never have been.
I think I've decided to go NC again with my ex after our lunch yesterday- her wanting to take things slowly stinks of her not being really interested and it's hurting me to do this interaction.
Tonight I feeling a crushing loneliness. It will pass and I'll get on with my life, just sucks.
My ex coming back into my life half way (not fully committed) has made me insecure and unconfident- A man I AM NOT and never have been.
Lozboss
Master Don Juan
I honestly feel it's because I didn't date anybody that wowed me that drove me back to her- at least in part.Social_Leper said:
Either way- reconciliation or not- I need NC for my own mental health and to drive her back to me.
The only concern I have is that we'll both be at an Event with a large group in mid May- not sure how to play that.
Between_The_Lines
Master Don Juan
No man, you don't restructure your whole life in order to lure back someone who has doubts about being with you or unequivocally does not want to share their own life with you. Remind yourself of that every time you feel an urge to "reach out" or "make amends" or get "closure" ...or go no contact as a way to seduce your ex back...Lozboss said:
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Lozboss
Master Don Juan
Agreed between.
I need NC to get over her and move onwards and upwards.
I need NC to get over her and move onwards and upwards.
Getting really ****ing anxious about this meeting. Wtf was I thinking...idk if I should have called this meeting but things need to get sorted out so I don't have to have any contact with her. What if she tells me she's getting married? Wtf...idk how well I can hold it together. Ugh...after this, I'm not contacting her in any way! Nothing!
Thanks for all the kind words, I would have been in a much worse place without the advice.
I don't know what will happen when I see her again at work, I feel overall good these past days because I haven't seen her, but out of experience I know I'll get an emotional hit when it happens.
I don't know what will happen when I see her again at work, I feel overall good these past days because I haven't seen her, but out of experience I know I'll get an emotional hit when it happens.
It may be hard afterwards, no one can tell. But you'll get through this and come out as a better man. From what you post and how you react to your own situation, you can tell you have IT in you. Somewhere we all have and it's through what life throws at us it forces its way out.drake33 said:
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I think youre right. Any tips for this meeting tonight? Ive got an agenda written up...should I even address her in a friendly way? Ask her how she is? Or just be myself minus the feelings I have for her? Treat her like meeting a client at the gym for the first time?SayWhat said:
What I have done is just say hi in a polite way. I've never asked her how she was or something about herself. Even when she said something totally arbitrary to me I just said "ah" or ignored it. But that was in my situation without a kid. I think you need to think what would cause you no more harm when you get back home.drake33 said:
But then again, what would cause her pain is seeing you completely over her, acting like you don't care etc. This has been my problem, I ignore her, but on the other hand think this causes her to feel good.
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Day 18 - bpd ex
Felt pretty good today, found out that a cute girl is keen on me so going to approach on Saturday and try set something up. I think I'm ready to get back in the game and a sane girl would be a start.
I'm not angry at my borderline ex, I've come to realize I have to take responsibility for allowing her to treat me the way she did. She can blame her behavior on a mental illness and child abuse, what's my excuse for not being a man?
Time to change all of that, become a new me and I'm looking forward to it. I do miss the good times with her, but the bad so outweighed the good which was why I had to walk away from her. One thing I have to thank her for was not making it hard, as a borderline that can't have been easy for her to hold it together and be civil about it.
Anyway, onwards and upwards.
Felt pretty good today, found out that a cute girl is keen on me so going to approach on Saturday and try set something up. I think I'm ready to get back in the game and a sane girl would be a start.
I'm not angry at my borderline ex, I've come to realize I have to take responsibility for allowing her to treat me the way she did. She can blame her behavior on a mental illness and child abuse, what's my excuse for not being a man?
Time to change all of that, become a new me and I'm looking forward to it. I do miss the good times with her, but the bad so outweighed the good which was why I had to walk away from her. One thing I have to thank her for was not making it hard, as a borderline that can't have been easy for her to hold it together and be civil about it.
Anyway, onwards and upwards.
Wow when reading this I had to think about my ex, she told me once she was sexually abused as a child. Perhaps that's the reason why she has a husband, has an affair with me, dumps me and immediately has a new affair. Also explains why she needs constant attention from everyone around her, especially guys. And also explains why during our affair, every month she had this episode "I can't do this to my husband" and the next day said she wants to continue with me and acted like nothing happened.Infern0 said:
O my god the signs... If any of you guys saw it, you would have shouted "run away".
Still am gonna ignore her, I'll leave her feel good about herself and thinking I'm not over her. In a way I am not, I still miss the good times, but I would have never seen a decent relationship out of this.
Dang! Damaged goods for sure. I know you care and all but you've gotta walk bro. Don't just ignore, simply walk away. You have the ability to just not even look back. Coach Corey Wayne said that the strongest negotiating position is stating what you want...if she's not with it...walk away and MEAN IT! But I think you know you should walk anyways.SayWhat said:
