Lozboss
Master Don Juan
Good man Drake- you got it right.drake33 said:
In the end if they DON'T come back then they aren't worth it anyway.
Fingers crossed for you buddy- keep at it, we are all here if you need to vent- stay strong brother!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)
- Thread starter Daydream Engineer
- Start date
In the end if they DON'T come back then they aren't worth it anyway.
Fingers crossed for you buddy- keep at it, we are all here if you need to vent- stay strong brother!
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Thanks, Lozboss! Good luck on the date this weekend. Just take it nice and easy with her. Have fun, laugh, and make yourself intriguing. Don't spend a lot of time with her...make her wonder...intrigue her. Make her wonder why you won't spend a ton of time with her. Be scarce...like diamonds...thats why we value them so much. I appreciate your thoughts. Im trying my best. I am feeling better about things more and more and I know that no contact is a big part of it..that coupled with time. I am getting my self respect back. I have not contacted her at all. I mean...taking a step back from it all..she disrespected me. Why in the fk would I beg for her? Im better than that. I value myself much more than that. I communicate with her about our daughter and nothing else. I dont give three ****s about her feelings. She apparently thinks Im mad at her...no...I just dont have anything to say to her that doesnt relate to our daughter. Were going to have a parenting meeting soon, havent mentioned it to her, but its going to have to happen soon. Planning on meeting her at a coffee shop and ironing out things with our daughter and turning my back. To the guys who are just struggling with NC, imagine if you had a child with them and HAD to have some communication with them...consider yourself lucky if you dont!
I get pissed at times of the day and write what I want to say to her so bad in notepad! Here's what I wanted to say to her today, she's going to be saying you're being mean to me and she's telling people I'm mad at her..
"I'm not mad. I respect your decision. This is what you chose. It's not WHAT you've done but rather HOW you've done it. Your rudeness. Your disrespect. Your threats. It's not okay. You and I are not friends. I have no desire to be your friend. Were simply business partners. Our business just happens to be our daughter. I have nothing else to say to you outside of that. I made it clear what I wanted, you chose this. This is the reality of your decision. "
"I'm not mad. I respect your decision. This is what you chose. It's not WHAT you've done but rather HOW you've done it. Your rudeness. Your disrespect. Your threats. It's not okay. You and I are not friends. I have no desire to be your friend. Were simply business partners. Our business just happens to be our daughter. I have nothing else to say to you outside of that. I made it clear what I wanted, you chose this. This is the reality of your decision. "
Day 14 I think.
Had a good day, had nothing to do besides going to the gym and working in the garden, gonna play some games now and watch some shows. I do hope it's not because she send me a text this morning how she misses how we acted towards each other and she hopes we can act again like this.
I did not answer to this and will never do. I have zero respect for her anymore, the only thing I'll say something is work related.
I still have little downs because of images in my head of them having sex, but I relieve myself with the thought "why do I only think of her in this way?". Thoughts of romantic moments between us I have to force to think about and when I do, I feel nothing. I hope I have these thoughts because I think I didn't really love her and was just with her for the sex. I can even listen to Eric Prydz - Generate without problems, what a terrific song.
Had a good day, had nothing to do besides going to the gym and working in the garden, gonna play some games now and watch some shows. I do hope it's not because she send me a text this morning how she misses how we acted towards each other and she hopes we can act again like this.
I did not answer to this and will never do. I have zero respect for her anymore, the only thing I'll say something is work related.
I still have little downs because of images in my head of them having sex, but I relieve myself with the thought "why do I only think of her in this way?". Thoughts of romantic moments between us I have to force to think about and when I do, I feel nothing. I hope I have these thoughts because I think I didn't really love her and was just with her for the sex. I can even listen to Eric Prydz - Generate without problems, what a terrific song.
My exs best friend texted me this weekend. Nothing about my ex. And I know my ex didn't put her up to it so it isn't like my ex was secretly reaching out, although I am sure she will tell her we talked. Her and I actually became good friends so I responded, kept it friendly, no talk about the ex and I didn't tell her anything about what is going on in my life. We mostly talked about our mutual friend. I guess you could say I broke no contact and it definitely made me think about my ex but I really value this girl as a friend and am not going to cut her off.
I keep being tempted to post stuff on instagram that shows how great my life is going, it really is going well. But I know that isn't going to change my exs feelings. It is emotion not logic that matters. And even if she sees I got a promotion or whatever that isn't going to change how she feels. Accepting that there is nothing you can do is the hardest thing for me.
I keep being tempted to post stuff on instagram that shows how great my life is going, it really is going well. But I know that isn't going to change my exs feelings. It is emotion not logic that matters. And even if she sees I got a promotion or whatever that isn't going to change how she feels. Accepting that there is nothing you can do is the hardest thing for me.
Just found out from our daughter that she is allegedly engaged to this guy already...wtf...not gonna lie...pretty ****ing upset...however I'm not going to ask or say anything about it. If they are, I think that parent meeting needs to happen sooner. I don't really like the guy, never did, I've known him since we were younger. I just need him to know his role and that my daughter already has a father...there will be no "step dad" title of any ****ing kind! Had to vent! Sorry! Hope he knows we were having sex a month ago..
As I sit here at 3:16AM, I look back at my posts from 6 years ago and wonder,, WTF was I thinking. We all grow up and learn to face life like the MEN we are. Roles have switched here in the states. Many women take the position of the man because somebody needs to wear the pants and somebody needs to wear the panties. Guys, you must pick up your skirts and grab your balls!
You think back in 1600's men acted the way they act now! FUQ NO!
I was a big time AFC/PUSSII... and still planning on breaking up soon since I know it wont work out!
We have to be strong, if not us then them. Look how many guys thought their girl was special here, take a step back and analyze it logically. So many special girls right?!?!?...
Then YOU CAN DEFF. FIND ANOTHER SPECIAL ONE!!
The second we levitate our soul from our bodies and watch us from the corner of how pathetic we act, we will be more embarrassed than farting at a funeral.
Lets pick up our testicles put them back into the sack, pat our backs, and find the next prey to attack!
I hope this puts a smile on some of your faces
You think back in 1600's men acted the way they act now! FUQ NO!
I was a big time AFC/PUSSII... and still planning on breaking up soon since I know it wont work out!
We have to be strong, if not us then them. Look how many guys thought their girl was special here, take a step back and analyze it logically. So many special girls right?!?!?...
Then YOU CAN DEFF. FIND ANOTHER SPECIAL ONE!!
The second we levitate our soul from our bodies and watch us from the corner of how pathetic we act, we will be more embarrassed than farting at a funeral.
Lets pick up our testicles put them back into the sack, pat our backs, and find the next prey to attack!
I hope this puts a smile on some of your faces
TheMonkeyKing
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If you gonna date any chick, ex or otherwise, you gotta have your balls and your brain fully in it. You gotta be independent of outcome, especially with an ex. She's now scrutinising you every move. That being said, she wants you to win. But you gotta be ready; like A-game.Lozboss said:
After sleeping on it...I'm really not too pissed..I just want to get our parenting plan together going forward. Thinking of setting a meeting to discuss the most important issues...mainly her bday, summer school, and financial obligations. Gonna aim to keep it brief and quick.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I have made a text I want to send to her, I need some advice if it's good. Bear in mind I don't ever want any reconciliation, so it will be the last I ever say to her. Or should I just keep going NC?
Some little background story for those who don't know it. My ex is married and has three kids, we hooked up for about 6 months, breaks up with me 2 weeks ago and has another 'toyboy' after a week.
"I would not have been mad if you broke up and went for your husband and kids. But if you **** someone else this fast after me, this I don't understand. Don't let your ego rise because of this, I'm not jealous, if you think back, I never was. We both knew what we had couldn't last. I was looking for fights because I didn't had the balls to break up, why do you think I texted so little and always made up excuses when you asked to go on a date. I know it's weak, but what you are doing now... I have no respect for you anymore. How you can live with yourself is beyond me, because face it you're a sl*t. You were the biggest mistake of my life. And your husband was right, working at the bar has completely changed you. When I first met you, you were this sweet girl, but your constant need of attention from everyone and especially males, is making me sick. Never contact me again."
Everything I say is true, I wanted to break up but didn't had the balls, probably because of the sex. Being dumped or being the dumper makes a huge difference to your well being, that is why I want to send it.
Please don't judge on the fact that I was in fault too because she was married, I know now I was and have learned my lesson.
Some little background story for those who don't know it. My ex is married and has three kids, we hooked up for about 6 months, breaks up with me 2 weeks ago and has another 'toyboy' after a week.
"I would not have been mad if you broke up and went for your husband and kids. But if you **** someone else this fast after me, this I don't understand. Don't let your ego rise because of this, I'm not jealous, if you think back, I never was. We both knew what we had couldn't last. I was looking for fights because I didn't had the balls to break up, why do you think I texted so little and always made up excuses when you asked to go on a date. I know it's weak, but what you are doing now... I have no respect for you anymore. How you can live with yourself is beyond me, because face it you're a sl*t. You were the biggest mistake of my life. And your husband was right, working at the bar has completely changed you. When I first met you, you were this sweet girl, but your constant need of attention from everyone and especially males, is making me sick. Never contact me again."
Everything I say is true, I wanted to break up but didn't had the balls, probably because of the sex. Being dumped or being the dumper makes a huge difference to your well being, that is why I want to send it.
Please don't judge on the fact that I was in fault too because she was married, I know now I was and have learned my lesson.
NO judgment here. We all have had our little head do the thinking for the big head....and the strange things is we often do it on more than one occasion. As men I do think unless a woman openly tries to destroy us we have a tendency to "forget" and forgive...and will take back an ex who has proven multiple times they are not to be trusted. Something that even at my advanced age I cannot for the life of me figure out. Calling it Beta or whatever doesn't really explain the facts. Just my .02.
Lozboss
Master Don Juan
Yes- Sort your **** for your daughter then go Ghost.drake33 said:
Sort your stuff and then step away.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Lozboss
Master Don Juan
Drake- I'd avoid that. Only see her if you have to.
Agreed with Drake on this Saywhat - go ghost. Just drop off the map. It eats them far more if you simply disappear. The biggest hurt you can put on someone is not giving them closure.
Agreed with Drake on this Saywhat - go ghost. Just drop off the map. It eats them far more if you simply disappear. The biggest hurt you can put on someone is not giving them closure.
Ok thanks both I'll do that. But I still have to work with her from time to time and this hurts. I just say work related stuff and nothing else, but still I feel better when I don't have to work and don't see her.Lozboss said:
Lozboss
Master Don Juan
Give them an Hour or whatever and then go, even if there are bits unfinished. It sets the message that you set the timetable.drake33 said:
If you need longer you can decided if you need another and book that at ANOTHER time.
I like that. I think I'll go that route. I put the meeting proposal out there..haven't heard back yet. I said...Lozboss said:
"Are you available for a parenting meeting soon? I was thinking at the Coffee shop on Thursday around 6. Let me know if that works for you. Thanks."
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.