Got dumped 2 weeks ago after 7 year relationship.... the last 10 months long distance.
My biggest surprise is that she hasn't contacted me at all after this time (2 weeks). I've seen her conversations with her friends where she asks them "Is it okay I haven't said anything to him yet?" and they just tell her "That's excellent! He'll get the message that its finally over!"
She will be coming back to town in 2 weeks. When she dumped me, she said she should meet for coffee at this time. At first I thought I would and show her how alpha and unaffected I was, but after reconsidering it......I'm not going to.
She might text and call a lot, and may even turn up at my house if I just ignore. Don't want to deal with that. Then again, she probably doesn't care that much and I'm probably over thinking things.
Mornings seem to be the worst part. Waking up with that lingering pain. It's like I don't want to accept reality and wish I could wake up in another situation where she is with me. The pain seems to subside during the day and usually channels into dislike for that total b!tch.
I always thought she had a thing for this guy from work. Two months after moving to the country town, I visited her and caught her deleting text messages in front of me between them. I raged, but she explained she was just asking him for relationship advice about us. I was stupid enough to buy it. I would always keep an eye on their Facebook interactions, and always try to check her messages on her phone secretly when I visited her. They definitely seemed to be a bit too buddy-buddy for my liking. She would message him more than me.
The funny thing is that the guy is like 5'5 manlet and I'm 6'2. But the guy has Facebook photos with just tons of girls with him in every pic and seems very "charismatic". Anyway, a couple of times I found out she lied about going to dinner with him when she said she went with a group of people. I raged again, but she explained that she didn't tell me because she "knew I'd get angry and that they are just friends."
I then got told how I was so possessive and controlling and that she should be able to be friends with whoever she wants. Well, now here's the irony - I now see after the break up a Facebook convo which took place 2 weeks before she dumped me where her friends are encouraging her to date this manlet and saying how great he is - even linking her to articles saying how "Short Guys Make Better Lovers". Makes me want to smash their ****ing skulls in to be honest. How dare she accuse me of that when I was right!
I really don't love her any more. But I feel I want to "Get back at her". Not violently. Just I want to "win" the break up. Everyone says "just be the better person"....yeah that's fine.....but is there anything I can actively do? How do I make her suffer? How do I make her regret her decision? How do I make her cry like a baby the way she made me cry?
Any insight is much appreciated.
My biggest surprise is that she hasn't contacted me at all after this time (2 weeks). I've seen her conversations with her friends where she asks them "Is it okay I haven't said anything to him yet?" and they just tell her "That's excellent! He'll get the message that its finally over!"
She will be coming back to town in 2 weeks. When she dumped me, she said she should meet for coffee at this time. At first I thought I would and show her how alpha and unaffected I was, but after reconsidering it......I'm not going to.
She might text and call a lot, and may even turn up at my house if I just ignore. Don't want to deal with that. Then again, she probably doesn't care that much and I'm probably over thinking things.
Mornings seem to be the worst part. Waking up with that lingering pain. It's like I don't want to accept reality and wish I could wake up in another situation where she is with me. The pain seems to subside during the day and usually channels into dislike for that total b!tch.
I always thought she had a thing for this guy from work. Two months after moving to the country town, I visited her and caught her deleting text messages in front of me between them. I raged, but she explained she was just asking him for relationship advice about us. I was stupid enough to buy it. I would always keep an eye on their Facebook interactions, and always try to check her messages on her phone secretly when I visited her. They definitely seemed to be a bit too buddy-buddy for my liking. She would message him more than me.
The funny thing is that the guy is like 5'5 manlet and I'm 6'2. But the guy has Facebook photos with just tons of girls with him in every pic and seems very "charismatic". Anyway, a couple of times I found out she lied about going to dinner with him when she said she went with a group of people. I raged again, but she explained that she didn't tell me because she "knew I'd get angry and that they are just friends."
I then got told how I was so possessive and controlling and that she should be able to be friends with whoever she wants. Well, now here's the irony - I now see after the break up a Facebook convo which took place 2 weeks before she dumped me where her friends are encouraging her to date this manlet and saying how great he is - even linking her to articles saying how "Short Guys Make Better Lovers". Makes me want to smash their ****ing skulls in to be honest. How dare she accuse me of that when I was right!
I really don't love her any more. But I feel I want to "Get back at her". Not violently. Just I want to "win" the break up. Everyone says "just be the better person"....yeah that's fine.....but is there anything I can actively do? How do I make her suffer? How do I make her regret her decision? How do I make her cry like a baby the way she made me cry?
Any insight is much appreciated.
