Im furthering what I've been saying again and again. YOU NEED TO DO NC FOR YOURSELF. All I've been seeing lately is people on the board, talk a good game, which it is, but the thing is you're doing it because you want to get back with the ex.
I mean sure, I'm a guy too that wanted to get his ex back and use NC for a means to make her feel a certain way, the reality behind that is that there is some force that drove you both together, and she can sense you still pine for her wether it be love, sex, etc.
You need to go NC for you, better yourself, live, meet new people.
I'll tell you some of my story. Ex I was with, loved her with all my heart, thought she was very attractive, busty, sweet, etc. however she came with ALOT of baggage, that i fully accepted. In short, the relationship was easily 80/20 (I gave 80 she gave 20)
She didn't really have to try hard in the relationship because she used her charm and breasts to her advantage with me. However after awhile I started to see her flaws more and more and that's when I started having problems with her. She brushed them off and said I was nagging her with it. But when she had an issue, I had to listen. She never wanted to do anything different than her comfortable normal, and it rubbed off on me and I became lazy. In short she didn't want to try.
Once I demanded she started to try, she became distant and over time dumped be because she felt, "I wasn't the one" after 5 years.
It hurt me more to know that even if she said she'd try to make things work and stand up for what's right, she never did. She never really cared on what my needs were, just her own.
Skip 3 months after the break. I'm meeting women, that in short, want to please me in love, sex, etc.
It literally blew my mind what some women will do for the person they like.
For example, my ex gf hated giving oral, but liked getting it, and when she was tired, she wouldn't want sex or anything of the sort. She would be concerned on how she felt and her only
These new ladies, they want to please every shape and form, and I met and known them for 2 months. But the reason this is because I'm such a good guy and was myself, they've come to like me a lot and want to make sure that I stick around. But in order that I reached this point, I'd did NC FOR ME ONLY.
I've been in you guy's position already. In order to see real results, you have to get over the ex and move on. If she comes back around, then and only then you can deal talking to her again, but you'll do it levelheaded
, I get approached by a lot of married women (which is quite tempting) and they show so much interest in me + are so supportive. Wish I was as interesting, to my ex