Formerlyrossitheking
Don Juan
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Checking her fb is on a par with stalking her house. Same actions. Same results.
hey man thanx for the support...MichiganMan1111 said:Keep your head up guy. We have all been there. I can promise you the thought of her with other guys goes away. It takes some time, for me it was probably about 40 days.
I can tell you the best prescription: getting a new woman in your life. My ex was banging a new guy right after I went NC and it hurt me. Then I found a great girl, and I found out after some time that my ex was on to her second new guy. I can say with all honesty and sincerity I felt nothing when I heard about it. Keep focused, you will be in a much better place soon. Find a good girl and treat her right. Hell, if it happens again at least you will know how to deal with it.
P.S. maybe you will get a great Christmas present like I did: I was on my way over to my new woman's place and a text popped up from my ex asking if I wanted to meet (close to 70 days NC at this point, AND she has a boyfriend). I laughed to myself and hit delete: Gentlemen,The Best Revenge Is Living Well!
mkj1990 said:So last night I met my ex for the first time since the break up. It was not planned, we met outside a club.
She cried. She begged. Said she would do anything to have me back. And then she told me her mom had been diagnosed with cancer just before we broke up, and told me that was partly why she did break up with me. I really like her mom, she was always so kind to me, so I felt so sorry for her and her family.
What made it even harder was telling her that I didn't want her back, watching her eyes fill up with tears and then run away from me. I later got a text that she "couldn't take it anymore", and that she felt like she had lost everything.
I guess every guy wants to be perceived as a "though-guy" but when I got home last night I just started crying. I can't tell why really. I really care for this girl, but I don't want to get back together with her. Maybe because these mixture of feelings that I've had for so long now always seem to come back to me and fvuck things up again. I thought I was doing so well, but today I feel like I'm back at square one. Feel terrible. Her world seems to fall apart, and I'm making it even worse it seems by not taking her back. I know I don't own her anything, she did treat me terribly, but at the same time I feel for her. I know the most important thing is to take care of myself, but it's hard at the same time when a situation like this occurs.
This...tripod23 said:she could be calling then hanging up so that you call her back....????
i wouldnt fall for that old chestnut at all.......women or your ex will make solid contact if they want you , trust me on this ...........dont spend your time running around after them its not worth the horrid outcome once she gets the validation she is seeking to make herself feel like a godess once again.
what you need to be doing is focusing on any future goals you have in your mind so you can move forward without attachment to any outcome which involves her.
good luck
Wait... so you answered? How would you know she hung up unless you answered. That's a big no no when it comes to NC.jackson37 said:Was just holding my phone, saw my ex call and she literally hung up a second after calling....what? Probably a pocket dial. But this is the second time so idk if shes playing games. To be honest im feeling great right now, the best I had since the break up. I just hope it lasts!
Oh noo I didnt answer! To clarify it showed up "Ex is calling" for a couple seconds then went away on its on so she closed it right after calling herself. Shes blocked now. Its the second time it happened, first time a flurry of emotions came rushing back this time nothing really effected me so progress I guess! Every little victory counts.Johnny Alias said:Wait... so you answered? How would you know she hung up unless you answered. That's a big no no when it comes to NC.
I'll definetly watch those two youtube clips when i get a chance, I like a lot of the material you've been recommending. Been doing that 20min meditation to detach my thoughts (I did it outside today). Anyone who isnt at least trying meditation is missing out.Jariel said:I just want to ask you guys.
How many of you have a goal that you're working towards right now? What is that goal?
Or has winning back your ex taken over your ambitions and priorities in life?
You see, one thing that will help you get over this break up pain more than anything is to have a goal to aim for and to work on. You can use the break up for inspiration, in fact, I recommend it. One of the best thing to come out of my break ups is the motivation I gain to push myself into becoming a better person.
Last time we broke up, I decided to focus on setting up a business and I got myself into such a positive state of mind when we met up to say our goodbyes, she could see I was buzzing with motivation and inspired for life. She was really impressed by this.
This time, I've put most of my focus on the gym, getting back to my best shape, and to building stronger confidence and more seduction skills, this is paying off big time.
The most important thing about setting these goals is that it gives you a distraction and a purpose to get up every day. When you break up, it feels like nothing matters and the future looks very dark and pointless, but when you fix your mind on a goal, then you know that each day is bringing you closer and closer to a better time. Every day I look in the mirror, I see more ab definition, bigger shoulders, chest and biceps. I feel more energetic, more confident by the day, getting more looks and getting hit on by more women and each day is better than the last.
I just thought I'd take this opportunity to share 2 potentially life changing video clips:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62DqsD2s5V8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1v3Sv7KsJsI
This is your chance to become better than ever!
I have found that particular meditation the most effective I've tried. It allows me to notice and let go of those thoughts that bring on the negative emotions and keep me down.jackson37 said:I'll definetly watch those two youtube clips when i get a chance, I like a lot of the material you've been recommending. Been doing that 20min meditation to detach my thoughts (I did it outside today). Anyone who isnt at least trying meditation is missing out.
I agree that we all need goals and here are some common ones I've applied that maybe others can use or relate to:
--Exercise and Fitness: Sign up for a gym, workout, run around your neighborhood, hell even do pushups and sit ups every morning is better than nothing!
--Diet and Nutrition: A healthy body has a healthy mind. Ingest lot of fruits and vegetables, avoid junky food, etc. Drink LOTS of water!
--Recreation: Find something your passionate about and follow it or pick up a new hobby
--Walk in Nature: Go for a walk or simply enjoy nature, it has nice health benefits on the brain. Meditating outside is wonderful if you're down for that as well.
--Increase your Social ciricle: Strengthen your friendships, talk to people about it, meet new people whether it online dating sites or just talking to your dentist or the lady at the front desk at the gym. Humans thrive on social relationships and just a simple interaction can boost dopamine and leave you feeling good
--Religious/Spiritual: Dont want to get religion involved but if you are religious try praying every night just about what's on your mind. If not religious keep a journal instead! Track your progress!
Jariel said:I just want to ask you guys.
How many of you have a goal that you're working towards right now? What is that goal?
Or has winning back your ex taken over your ambitions and priorities in life?
You see, one thing that will help you get over this break up pain more than anything is to have a goal to aim for and to work on. You can use the break up for inspiration, in fact, I recommend it. One of the best thing to come out of my break ups is the motivation I gain to push myself into becoming a better person.
Last time we broke up, I decided to focus on setting up a business and I got myself into such a positive state of mind when we met up to say our goodbyes, she could see I was buzzing with motivation and inspired for life. She was really impressed by this.
This time, I've put most of my focus on the gym, getting back to my best shape, and to building stronger confidence and more seduction skills, this is paying off big time.
The most important thing about setting these goals is that it gives you a distraction and a purpose to get up every day. When you break up, it feels like nothing matters and the future looks very dark and pointless, but when you fix your mind on a goal, then you know that each day is bringing you closer and closer to a better time. Every day I look in the mirror, I see more ab definition, bigger shoulders, chest and biceps. I feel more energetic, more confident by the day, getting more looks and getting hit on by more women and each day is better than the last.
I just thought I'd take this opportunity to share 2 potentially life changing video clips:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62DqsD2s5V8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1v3Sv7KsJsI
This is your chance to become better than ever!