The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Originally posted by bashful
I heard that Peiere!!!!
just be yourself, that a good thing BUT!!!!!....nice guys finish last
1. example-------> my cousin has a baby momma he's been with for 7 years. he mentally abuses her AAALLLLLLL the time. Im theere most of the time to hear it. he call hers a *****..oops excuse me, he figures its not as harmful cause he says," your MY *****"...what does she do? ANYTHING for that guy.
my cousin->"im hungry go buy me something"
cousins baby momma->" what do you want to eat"
my cousin-"i dont know, anything expensive!!, use your head, if you have one"
CBM->" okay you dont have ta' yell ill be bacjk with something for you to eat"
Now he physically abuses her, he grabbed her throat in fron tof the kids, and me...on this past monday. she trheatened to leave him...you know what they did that night?....had sex alll niigghttt long. why? cause he wanted it.
she got married to another guy( niceguy) while with my cousin. He took her in, cared for her and the two kids that werent his....after a year she left him and went back to my cousin. He didnt even ask for her to come back...now she has all this money coming from the marriage from the nice guy...it doesnt pay to be nice.
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I dislike women who are/were in abusive relationships, I say they deserve what they take.
Im surprised the nice guy didnt go on a killing spree starting with baby momma
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"Nice guy card". Never looked at it as a "card", but interesting concept.I'm a nice guy.. but the more i read the more I realize I'm a fu(king moron for playing the nice guy card.