"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The neglected art of a classy compliment

Matt Rogers

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Something that is neglected a lot on this site is that a rare and well-timed compliment delivered in a confident and charming manner can work miracles. The secret to a good compliment is that it shows you have noticed her and pay attention to her.

All girls no matter how pretty are slightly insecure and love to be complimented. Where most men get it wrong is they give too many compliments and make them insincere or wussy compliments. What you want to do is give one or two red-blooded compliments each date. Also change the subject immediately-do not wait for her to say thank you. She heard!!

For example:

If you find out she did well in a test or something use the:
"God, you are clever...and beautiful" line. It really works. Apparantely Hugh Grant used to use it.

"You are looking especially pretty tonight" for example when you collect her for a date.

"I like your new hairstyle it really suits you"

"So how does it feel to be the prettiest girl on the dancefloor" Corny I know, but when not used as a chat up line (as in you have already been dating the girl a while, it really works)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Luscious

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Absolutely correct.
I find that a compliment here and there can get them hooked pretty easily.
Bump 'er up to the top.
 

kel

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When used sparingly, this stuff is great. I noticed that my natural DJ friend is a master of this. Making a girl feel so good, and associating the feeling with you, is so powerful. Just use it sparingly and with the right attitude and its 100% not AFC :)
 

diplomatic_lie

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I've found that compliments which deal with things she can control (ie. how good she looks while on a date, her clothing, etc) work better than stuff she can't control ("you've got such big tits!").

And I definitely agree with you - most guys on this board seem to think any kind of compliment is "AFC", but they're forgetting that its only a loser move because they do it too much.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bonhomme

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Yes, good point.

Compliments are like spice in food. Just the right amount of the right kind makes for a tasty treat, but too much can burn your guts out and give you the sh1ts.

El bumpo.
 

jakethasnake

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I do this all the time. :)
 
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