"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Myth Of Sisyphus.

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We are Sisyphus. We roll our rock to the top to finally see it fall to the bottom, and the thing is that there's nothing to do about this. It is the ultimate disease but it is also what instils beauty in all things. The fleeting and absurd nature of life is what makes it beautiful.
And all we have to do is to rebel. To rebel in a passionate, life-loving way, to burn with the essence of madness. Because only the mad ones can truly live. Indeed, after realizing the absurdity of life the logical answer would be to let things drive your life, to kill time or even to commit suicide but it requires madness to love life despite of it all, considering that life has no meaning and there's no reason to do anything.
The only important thing is then to make the most of every moment and to have the most fun with everything. You so realize that nothing has to be taken seriously and the madness that is now in you will make you burn, love, behold, act and create.
You are now free because untied to the false seriousness of life and living as you're immortal until the day you die. Life is your playground, it's a sandbox where you can build whatever you want. And even if time will always tear it down, it is also what makes it so magical.
We must picture Sisyphus happy.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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this is gold. if you can take this in and make it part of your attitude to life, then "fullfilment" might just be an understatement.
great stuff
 

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Albert Camus is that you???
 

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I completely disagree.

The ultimate goal of our striving is achievement, not the striving itself. To adopt a paradigm where failure is not only expected, but glorified is the kiss of death.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Dreamer said:
... considering that life has no meaning and there's no reason to do anything.
Well, life has no ABSOLUTE meaning but the meaning that we imbue it with- the subjective meaning that we choose to give it. Hence, all the "madness" as you say.

Great post!
 

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macallik said:
Albert Camus is that you???
exactly what I thought! I just read the myth of sispyhus.

comic_relief
 

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I completely disagree with the OP.

CyranoDeBergerac said:
I completely disagree.

The ultimate goal of our striving is achievement, not the striving itself. To adopt a paradigm where failure is not only expected, but glorified is the kiss of death.
Exactly.
 

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CyranoDeBergerac said:
I completely disagree.

The ultimate goal of our striving is achievement, not the striving itself. To adopt a paradigm where failure is not only expected, but glorified is the kiss of death.
Agreed.

What the OP suggests is anarchy, a complete acceptance of everything. IT should be common sense to realize that NOT EVERYTHING can be accepted - you risk the further degradation of the human race into a spiraling, disgusting, cesspool of immoral behavior and stagnation.
 

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search1ng said:
CyranoDeBergerac said:
I completely disagree.

The ultimate goal of our striving is achievement, not the striving itself. To adopt a paradigm where failure is not only expected, but glorified is the kiss of death.
Agreed.

What the OP suggests is anarchy, a complete acceptance of everything. IT should be common sense to realize that NOT EVERYTHING can be accepted - you risk the further degradation of the human race into a spiraling, disgusting, cesspool of immoral behavior and stagnation.
Well first to reply to Cyrano I DO believe that only thing that matters is the process and YES I believe that the so-called achievement you talk about will never make you as happy as the process if you know how to enjoy it.

Secondly, I do not suggest an acceptance of everything, I just say that you NEED to accept all the things that you cannot change (your condition, the fact that you will die someday, that you will probably see people you love dying too, and everything else that is out of your control) in order to live a fulfilled and happy life. This is the first essential step, it is Nietzsche's "Amor Fati", unconditional love for your fate, and thus for life.
This IS the madness I've been talking about. Think about all the prophets. What drove them was an unconditional and insane love for their god and it's why they were so magnetic, so charismatic.
Love is the key, and although you can feel an incredible ecstasy when you experience true love with someone, I think the most intense kind of love is a profound love for life.

And I'm not a hippie guru.


Have fun people ! :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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One minute was enough, Tyler said, a person had to work hard for it, but a minute of perfection was worth the effort. A moment was the most you could ever expect from perfection.
 

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intrextrovert said:
One minute was enough, Tyler said, a person had to work hard for it, but a minute of perfection was worth the effort. A moment was the most you could ever expect from perfection.
I think that what Palaniuk calls perfection here is nothing more than a moment of grace. There's no such thing as perfection !
And yes you have to work hard for such a moment, a moment where you are completely yourself, freeing your mind from everything inessential and really believing you can do anything. I think it is only possible either with love or with art. When you perform your art (which by the way can be possibly anything) you do what you really love and express what you really are, but you need to work and practice it before to progressively substract the excess and make it completely free from external parasites.
But almost no one knows such a state in his life.

I'm not saying that the goal is unimportant, I just say that you have to enjoy the process as much if not more than the goal, because it's when you learn and you discover everything that the thing is really exciting. And remember that no moment is more important than another, the moments you learn and step forward are as important as your final moment of grace. You can dedicate your life to be able to know these moments of ecstasy but you should never sacrifice it, not even for that!

Have Fun !
 

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Well, life has no ABSOLUTE meaning but the meaning that we imbue it with- the subjective meaning that we choose to give it. Hence, all the "madness" as you say.
Well, life has no meaning. We have to understand that this has to be the case before we can give it a subjective meaning.

Actually, our freedom is given to us through the fact that life has no meaning.

I recommend Camus for everyone, but you really have to sit down and study the stuff, you have to really understand it. Especially the part about the philosophical suicide.
 
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