1. chad athlete at a D1 college. Let's give him 5 years in college for the sake of argument. What is his pool? It's sorority girls, female athletes and maybe a few dozen normies who are into athletes. How many total women are in that pool? At the very most, say at a university with an enrollment of 50,000, it might be a thousand. Second, how is "chad's" time occupied? Classes, practice, games and travel alone take up at least 50 hours a week, not to mention extra time for sleep and recovery. Add to that 10 - 20 hours a week for study if he actually wants to stay enrolled. In other words, "chad's" schedule looks awfully busy year round and doesn't leave much time for chasing stacies.
2. post grad chad in his 20's. If he's lucky enough to be employed full time and is relatively ambitious, he's grinding out 40 to 60 hour work weeks. He is focused on getting ahead, not getting wasted every night at bars. He has a social circle which includes work mates, some former friends and acquaintances from college, and a few stacies in the mix. This may be a couple dozen people total he knows well. Overall, his social circle has declined drastically compared to college. He's good looking enough to attract a pretty girlfriend and he wants to keep her around, so cheating is relatively rare.
I know many former NCAA athletes as a result of living an active lifestyle. One of my good friends is a 6'4" former NCAA athlete in a country club sport. He is white. If you were to look at him, he would look like the dream guy of every cookie cutter white woman. I'll give you a peek into his life as I have known him.
I knew him as "post grad Chad in his 20s". He's now his 30s. He slayed more poontang as "post grad Chad in his 20s" than during his time on campus. He never did non-bar approaching. He was a bar approacher. He had a solid full time job and was relatively ambitious. Despite working around 45-50 hours a week while in his 20s, he had enough time to go to the bar multiple nights a week and approach when he needed to do that. While in the bar, he approached nearly everything until he got what he wanted. He did look to close same night lays in the bars and rarely did those same night lays result in a 2nd instance of sex. The ones that did result in a 2nd instance of sex rarely more than 2 months.
As he approached 30, he got into a long term relationship with an attractive woman but not an elite option. He ended up doing the whole monogamous and monotonous thing. There may be a divorce in his future.
I was astounded at how he went from a living a "post grad Chad in his 20s" lifestyle to a more typical beta existence.
What is the lay count of these guys? At best, maybe 1 to 2 new lays per month, at best. That's assuming he doesn't have a girlfriend, and these guys are obviously more likely to have an attractive girlfriend than most guys.
Add to that, most D1 athletes are not good looking. Take a look at a D1 football or basketball roster and ask yourself how many of them pass the looks test. Chances are, it's a low percentage.
The bottom line is, most guys are jealous of a mythological beast, a unicorn that doesn't even exist.
During his peak years as "post grad Chad", his lay count was above 18 new women per year (above an average of 1.5 new lays per month).
While I agree that the "Chad" thing is overblown, there are men who are quite successful with women. Success can be measured a lot of different ways. Having extended, serial monogamous type 1-3 year relationships with women from ages 16 to 40 can be considered a success, if these women are all "hot" women (women most men would rate as an 8+) and he doesn't settle down for a boring, cookie cutter lifestyle.
Thank you OP. The myth of Chad is perpetuated by guys who never had a seat at the cool kid’s table, who never went to the good high school and college parties, who never made it into the VIP, extrapolating what they see from the outside looking in and filling in the gaps with their imagination.
There's merit to this. I've clawed my way to get in good with some cool kids at times in life. I went to some solid college parties but I doubt that I went to the absolute best ones. I went to a large public university so there was never just one awesome party.
I used to work in the nightlife. I’ve logged thousands upon thousands of hours in bar and clubs across dozens of cities and parties at a handful of colleges. I was plugged in with some regionalized celebrities (about as high status as you can get in this particular status-obsessed city); I was in VIP brushing shoulders with even more high status celebs than them. I’ve met ball players. I still go out and game in the college bars. I’ve yet to meet Chad.
I know guys who kill it, but they’re usually not the objectively highest status or conventionally attractive guys—usually they’re just socially really well-connected in a particular environment and when that environment disappears (they graduate high school or college or the club closes, etc.), they usually settle down or dumpster dive until they can rebuild a similar dynamic somewhere else (if they even know how to do that and didn’t just luck their way into it). A lot of those guys never do and just settle down. The other fact of the matter is that the overwhelming majority of guys who do have high sexual status in a particular environment will end up pretty monogamous with a cute or hot (or sometimes even meh) girl for months/years at a time. Very few guys are out to rack numbers—even fewer have the skill set to do it consistently.
Every time I see the Chad stuff, I’m just like get off the internet. Leave your house. Befriend the guys you think are Chad. Learn game. Try to take girls off of those guys. Stay at the bar til last close to see how rarely one of the good looking dudes talking to the hot girl actually leaves with her.
This is mostly accurate. Few guys get laid consistently from nightlife but it can happen. Yes, I mention one of my friend who achieved that for some period of time but even he gave it up for monogamy and monotony. The majority of bar attendees and college party attendees fail in their quest to get some vag for that night.
I think non-bar approaching is the better way to go.