chapter 3: NOW SHES ATTRacTED BAIT HER to invest into you
this is probably most complicated chapter of mysterys book.
to really understand this chapter each of the other chapters build upon each other to this.
now, lets start with what the goal and where we came from so far.
basically we've gotten some female interest because stuff we did in A1, and A2.
now we need to get her to get her to invest in us ....attraction is useful for baiting her interest
but what happens after okay you've got the interest okay well
basically we get her to 'buy into us' make her feel that shes doing the work in winning us over
and thus because she won us over, she should think of herself as winning something important.
this is a delicate game of rewarding with IOIs and givings IODs when she doesn't perform, you are kinda
training her into submission ....you have to bait her her for your affections..
how is this done?
Frame...this is the context in which words are said taht give it meaning. For example. A teacher talking to the student. The teacher has a authority figure frame.
a demostration of DLV, is if she can impose her frame over you. IF YOU HAVE A strong frame , and she can't do that then this is a DHV.
Why does this matter in the first place ?
the most important frame us djs have in the one when we have more social status than our target. we must hold that frame strongly. If we fall under her frame that she is the prize, then WE have just shown a DLV.
there is a frame game, that people play. such as hold my cup for me, she asks for something.. through this way, a person will express or demostrate the frame which they believe in...
you have to be careful, you don t want to be so compliment because that would mean shes imposing her frame on you, but on the other hand, you dont want be a social robot being so unbending and unflexible your poorly mixing with other people. The object would be have her jump through a figurative loop aka "frame game" before you do.
the bottom line is there are tons of sayings in the book that you can use, however the most effective way is to have inner game . if you have inner game, all this will come out naturally.
other ways to demostrate that you are a high status person is to have standards, takeways ( basically withdraw attention when shes wanting it)
basically, this next part is my interpretation.
Mystery talks about compliance and so called as we are working on testing her compliance , breaking one barrier, and get her to start comply more and more with you through a series of demostrating your own value and bringing hers down a little so that over the time of interaction, her level at which she trusts you has raised from nothing to about 65 %.
Examples of compliance tests are as follows:
you put her hand on your knee and she leaves it there
you touch her and she touches you back
you sqeeze her hand and she squeezes back
at the same time which you are trying to break her compliance, you are also escalating kino. basically if she defies your compliance test , give her an IOD, and raise you DHV, and give her another compliance test. there is a regular flow:
you IOD and DHV look for a female IOIs, if she responds with IOIS give her a compliance test. IF she complies with your test, rewards her with an IOIs and then give her another compliance test, as this cycle repeats , compliance momentum is built.
this cycle repeats until you have sex. compliance builds upon each other, from hand holding to hugging to kissing, there is an escalation in your compliance momemtum..gaining her compliance is when getting her to invest ( get a drink, spends some money on you) social pressure, locking her in, getting her to bounce
Important, if you give her a compliance test and she senses you cant back it up she will deny you. Do not look for her approval or even her being "Ok with it"..just Lead.
Don't ever compliment her on looks. Compliment on her things such as personality.
The cycle that i mentioned above there is a good structure to which it works it works like this:
Bait, hook, reel, and release
this is how is works..
you ask her a question,( bait)
she responds by telling her interesting stuff about herself ( she has just DHV for you)\
You give her an IOI ( reeling her into the convo so shes invested in the interaction)
now push her off to take away the discomfort of being picked up ( release her)
you see there is a delicate game being played here you bait her to give you an DHV, she does, and reward ( phsyology priinciple of reward/punishment) but then you complete distance yourself as if to say " i m not picking you up, because i m a high status male and i dont give out IOIs so easily )
so that once you release ( neutralize the last comment) you go on the next round, and in the cycle fashion like one of those spiral parking lot ramps, you are spiralling upwards building more compliance, kino, and comfort... at the level that you are breaking down her social status and raising yourself..so you are setting yourself up for the next part which is comfort.
I have covered most what i can pick up from this obviously important chapter, however, in reality i see several obstacles...i dont know if your target is going to have patience for you to give you the time of day to sit there while you try all your games. if you had her complete attention for this amount of time, then i coudl this working. but if shes giving you the time, anyway, shes interested to begin with?
I thought the attraction ended with the last chapter with you showing some DHV and game over, no way. you have bait her to invest in you while at the same time not appearing to DLV yourself.
One thing I really learned from mstery, i used to be so cut and dry and throwing out what I thought were DHV , when in fact it came out at blantant bragging about myself which is a DLV. What i learned was that, women are very finely tuned to sensing social status..that you have to show this very subtle and be able to do by playing games without her realizing that your are actually playing games. YOu have to really confident and show you are, but you can't explicit say it or brag, but you have to show social status. Sometimes I think that the best way to achieve is to perhaps forget all the games in stead be the real thing, have real social status have real social friends and at the same time, have real innner game , hvae the real social status the real nice car and nice apartment so your inner game is there for all to see.
