"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The most useful tip I've found on here...

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...was from Giovanni Casanova.

"Nothing I can't handle."

This little gem has helped me get back (closer) to my old self (I've done some crazy shyt!) than virtually everything else on this site combined.

When you truly get this attitude (not just understand it intellectually), you'll realize that nothing that happens with a chick could ever affect you.

Gold. Absolute gold.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You are totally right. i have it writen on a sticky on my desk at work. It works wonders.
 
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Yep...

As mentioned: Attitude is EVERYTHING!!!

Without it you really cant do anything...with it you can work wonders :cool:
 
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Yup.. that is the attitude of a real man for sure.

Another quote I found on here some time ago (it was in someone's sig) that helps me out a lot was "The Key = Making Self Improvement A Habit".

I try and focus on this daily as well. It certainly helps accelerate the process of becoming a DJ.

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^^^^^^^

It's from Nocturnal dude.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by WesCottII
^^^^^^^

It's from Nocturnal dude.
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Okay, but I got it from here.

Bottom line: who cares where it's from, just become it.

A little update. Since I've started repeating this to myself in virtually every situation in my life, I have really been flooded with forgotten memories of things I'd done in younger, crazier years. "Nothing I can't handle" embodies the essence of being a "real man", imo.
 
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I've used the "Nothing I cant handle" phrase along with the mentality to never say "I dont know" or "I dont care". These combined show you have an opinion/decision on any matter that can be thrown your way.

Oh and the Nothing I cant handle can be stated verbatim if a chick is really giving you a hard time. I've actually seen a girl melt over this saying...put the b!tch in her place too.
 
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Funny how four simple words can totally change your attitude on practically everything. I use that line with "I'll just wing it". It shows that I have enough confidence in myself to trust my instincts especially when in uncharted territory
 
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Originally posted by de silva
Okay, but I got it from here.

Bottom line: who cares where it's from, just become it.

A little update. Since I've started repeating this to myself in virtually every situation in my life, I have really been flooded with forgotten memories of things I'd done in younger, crazier years. "Nothing I can't handle" embodies the essence of being a "real man", imo.
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I wasn't talking to you. I was addressing the poster above.
 
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Originally posted by WesCottII
I wasn't talking to you. I was addressing the poster above.
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Oh okay. Is that what the "^^^^" means?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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