Jesse Pinkman
Master Don Juan
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So I haven't posted in a while but I thought I'd make this post, especially for anyone that is a newbie. I think that a lot of guys who have stuck around for a bit and have read a lot of game material, or boards like these, can benefit from the advice I am about to give. If I was to give no other piece of advice and only had one piece of advice to game above all, this will be it. As generic as it will sound, it is worth repeating we do not even notice it. I know I will get a lot of pushback for this but I promise you, if you take this advice and in a year it does help you out, you can block me on this forum and never listen to another word I say. The advice is:
No matter what happens, do not let the negativity that surrounds game and meeting women affect you.
You will meet and hear from a lot of guys who get into "game" and most of them will fail. Some men have such a misplaced ego that they actually think their game is smooth and airtight but are woefully unaware of how they come off to women, I've winged with guys like this. Rather than doing some inner self-reflection, these men will blame the outside circumstances and expect them to impact other men as well. It's true for most things in life that require effort but it is extra true for game and meeting women.
Say a hypothetical scenario. You are moving to a different city that is a big enough city. Now being the curious mind you are, maybe you go online to do your research. You read a forum like this or maybe some blog or some reddit post, who really knows. Some guy or two swears that women in given city cannot be gamed unless you have a half a million dollar sports car or social circle full of rich and powerful friends.
So naturally, you feel let-down. You feel down in the dumps. You become depressed because there goes your opportunity for a great dating life because some guy(s) on the internet made the claim. Now you go out depressed and your mood is soured moving into the city. In fact, you miss a lot of opportunities because all of the self-talk you tell yourself results in you not even taking much action.
You have sold yourself short and your results have suffered, you went into the game defeated on the inside and it all became a self-fulfilling prophecy. You will notice that this kind of negativity is true for all aspects of game. Men are doomed, women are all cheating wh0res, you shouldn't even bother unless you are a top 1% chad, etc. You read it all the time on the internet and occasionally, even on here.
At no point did we ask the most important question: Who is all of this coming from?
Yeah, how is that person or how are those group of people like?
Would you feel uplifted and amped after talking to them or depressed and deflated?
Say you were to date a hot girl and she wanted you to meet her friends, would you proudly introduce them to that group?
Chances are, those questions would not have flattering answers to them. Yet, you are letting this kind of a person determine your outcome and destiny in your goals.
Here's the other truth, losers are more likely to share their experiences.
A guy that goes out, gets blown out repeatedly, and cannot manage much success even after doing 100+ approaches is going to be frustrated. In that frustration, he is likely to take to the internet and vent about how bad women in a given city or in general are. Meanwhile, a guy who is naturally good with women and has an awesome life is not likely to find the internet all that often (they occasionally do but not often). That guy is too busy balls deep in some dime piece or out partying with real people than associating with depressing communities full of guys who at best are trying to figure it out.
So if you are a newbie and the next time you are coming across posts about how pointless game is, how awful certain cities are, and how we are all doomed because of hypergamy or whatever; seriously reflect and get some perspective first. Do not make someone else's misery your reality because misery loves company and it is always recruiting.
You will always have enough in the game beating you down, don't add to it.
Women will reject you.
Women will flake.
Women will break up with you.
Women will cheat on you.
Women will hurt you on purpose.
Other men will try to take your girl.
Other men will envy your success with women.
Now do you really want to add more weight on something that has its fair of challenges or do you want to take it head on with a winning mindset?
No matter what happens, do not let the negativity that surrounds game and meeting women affect you.
You will meet and hear from a lot of guys who get into "game" and most of them will fail. Some men have such a misplaced ego that they actually think their game is smooth and airtight but are woefully unaware of how they come off to women, I've winged with guys like this. Rather than doing some inner self-reflection, these men will blame the outside circumstances and expect them to impact other men as well. It's true for most things in life that require effort but it is extra true for game and meeting women.
Say a hypothetical scenario. You are moving to a different city that is a big enough city. Now being the curious mind you are, maybe you go online to do your research. You read a forum like this or maybe some blog or some reddit post, who really knows. Some guy or two swears that women in given city cannot be gamed unless you have a half a million dollar sports car or social circle full of rich and powerful friends.
So naturally, you feel let-down. You feel down in the dumps. You become depressed because there goes your opportunity for a great dating life because some guy(s) on the internet made the claim. Now you go out depressed and your mood is soured moving into the city. In fact, you miss a lot of opportunities because all of the self-talk you tell yourself results in you not even taking much action.
You have sold yourself short and your results have suffered, you went into the game defeated on the inside and it all became a self-fulfilling prophecy. You will notice that this kind of negativity is true for all aspects of game. Men are doomed, women are all cheating wh0res, you shouldn't even bother unless you are a top 1% chad, etc. You read it all the time on the internet and occasionally, even on here.
At no point did we ask the most important question: Who is all of this coming from?
Yeah, how is that person or how are those group of people like?
Would you feel uplifted and amped after talking to them or depressed and deflated?
Say you were to date a hot girl and she wanted you to meet her friends, would you proudly introduce them to that group?
Chances are, those questions would not have flattering answers to them. Yet, you are letting this kind of a person determine your outcome and destiny in your goals.
Here's the other truth, losers are more likely to share their experiences.
A guy that goes out, gets blown out repeatedly, and cannot manage much success even after doing 100+ approaches is going to be frustrated. In that frustration, he is likely to take to the internet and vent about how bad women in a given city or in general are. Meanwhile, a guy who is naturally good with women and has an awesome life is not likely to find the internet all that often (they occasionally do but not often). That guy is too busy balls deep in some dime piece or out partying with real people than associating with depressing communities full of guys who at best are trying to figure it out.
So if you are a newbie and the next time you are coming across posts about how pointless game is, how awful certain cities are, and how we are all doomed because of hypergamy or whatever; seriously reflect and get some perspective first. Do not make someone else's misery your reality because misery loves company and it is always recruiting.
You will always have enough in the game beating you down, don't add to it.
Women will reject you.
Women will flake.
Women will break up with you.
Women will cheat on you.
Women will hurt you on purpose.
Other men will try to take your girl.
Other men will envy your success with women.
Now do you really want to add more weight on something that has its fair of challenges or do you want to take it head on with a winning mindset?
