ok, here's the situation. 2 yrs ago, i confessed my love to the girl of my dreams, and a day later, she did the same. since then, we've gone through so much. when i mean "so much" i mean A LOT. like, helpign her cope with and end forced engagements, friends who claim i'm cheating behind her back, trouble with her parents resenting me and forbidding her to see me (which we never solved. we just see each other behind their backs), and a whole bunch of other things. for 2 yrs we've been together. in that time, i've proposed to her, and she accepted. i love her with all of my heart and soul, and when i proposed, she said she was the happiest girl in the world. everything was just so amazing, and we were so madly in love... the thing is, after i proposed to her, gradually, over 2 months, she's become so distant from me. she's become so busy, and we barely ever talk online or over the phone, and since about a month and a half ago we haven't seen each other or talked in person. (that tends to be difficult in the first place with her parents breathing down her neck.) over this time, she's changed, and now, she feels so distant. i feel like she's slowly drifting away from me, and it tears me apart inside. whenever we see each other in public or anywhere, she hardly ever makes eye contact anymore. whenever i try to draw her closer to me, it seems like she doesn't even hear me. i tried reminding her of our first kiss, our first date, our first time making out, (she never kissed anyone before me, so it was her very first), all the intimate moments we shared, the dreams we used to share, all kinds of things. it just seems like she doesn't even hear me. she just seems to ignore it like i never said anything, and she just talks about what she's busy with, or what events or exams she's got coming up. i feel like she just treats me like i'm her buddy or friend. i tried talking to her cousin about it, but he wasn't much help. every time i try telling her my feelings about us, we end up arguing, or it comes out wrong and we argue. we'll argue, and then we'll make up, and i'll see a glimpse of the girl i used to feel so familiar with and in love with. i'll see glimpses of the girl i proposed to, and then, i'll feel like maybe things will finally go back to the way they were, but they never do. the next day, she reverts to her new self, and i feel so hopeless. it hurts, y'know? she's the girl i used to talk to about running away and getting married with, and starting a family, and living our dreams. now, i feel like i can barely even talk to her without pretending that everything is ok. our three month summer break is coming up in less than a week, and she told me she had a plan that could have us be together for a while every day, but i doubt it'll really happen. (she's got extra classes from 8am-5pm, and i've got part time work from 9am-1pm, then i work night shift.) our anniversary is coming up, and i've asked her if she wants to do anything special, but it's like she didn't even hear me ask in the first place. i've tried to be optimistic about it, thinking that when summer comes, she'll be less busy, and we'll have time to be together, and things will all work out, but it doesn't last long. it'll ;ast for a few days, maybe a week, and then, i'll feel so distant from her, and i'll just start hurting inside. does anybody know what's going on? is there any way i can draw her back to me? will things ever return to the way things were? any advice on how to handle this situation? i've been thinking about breaking up with her, but i haven't made up my mind. i can't stop letting go of the thought that there's still hope. i don't want to lose this girl. she's the girl of my dreams. i'd do anything to keep her and get her back. she hasn't really mentioned breaking up or anything like that, but day by day, i feel like i'm losing her more and more. i've tried changing myself, thinking that maybe i've been doing something wrong, but it doesn't seem to be working. i just don't know what to do. normally, i'm a pretty tough guy. i've been through a lot in my life, and i've dealt with it, but now, every time i think about my relationship with my girl and how i feel, and how things are going, i just wanna break down and cry. i don't wanna live life without this girl. i feel like she's "the one" person i'm meant to be with. i know she still loves me, or at least i think i do, because every time we argue, we both make up, and she hasn't said she wants to leave me, or that things aren't working out. she says she never wants to leave me, and that she loves me more than anything in the world, but at the same time, she feels so distant. i've tried everything i could think of, and nothing seems to work. i was hoping someone out there could offer some help or advice and shed some light on this confusing situation as soon as possible.
