"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The more fake you are

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Oh now it's clearer!
And yes, as a men you want the "stoic self-control state" in your life! That's right.
So how could you live in an LTR with a women that need "chaos"?
If you have an LTR with "stoic self-control state" We know that the women will feel bored and leave.
I see so many LTR where there is a lot of argue which brings excitement which will explode in hot sex.
This is what an LTR should look like?
Basically an hero journey chart?
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FFS work on moving out of Italy OP. They are the worst women in the world in terms of attitude.
 

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We so often pretend than manipulation is inherently immoral/evil, despite the fact that civilization itself would be impossible, if we weren't all manipulating each other in some fashion
I see it like living life by intentionally influencing your luck. For instance, if you want to attend an event with 100 people you like, you can manipulate your actions to make that happen. If you have a crush on someone, you can manipulate your actions to increase the chances of being seen by her and making a move. Similarly, if you're unhappy with your job, you can manipulate your time to study for a new profession.
In essence, I see it as manipulating our daily tasks and choices.

The idea of the 'dread game' with another human being, whether it's wife or cousin, is similar.
It involves manipulating events to achieve a desired outcome.
So if I see my wife reading all the time, and having no sex, instead of telling her "you should stop reading" "you're absent", etc etc, I could bring her a spicy romance novel and that would change the outcome.
This is just an example.
 

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FFS work on moving out of Italy OP. They are the worst women in the world in terms of attitude.
This is interesting! Why? Do you make a comparision with other women you had?
What about japanese women?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BaronOfHair

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I see it like living life by intentionally influencing your luck. For instance, if you want to attend an event with 100 people you like, you can manipulate your actions to make that happen. If you have a crush on someone, you can manipulate your actions to increase the chances of being seen by her and making a move. Similarly, if you're unhappy with your job, you can manipulate your time to study for a new profession.
In essence, I see it as manipulating our daily tasks and choices.

The idea of the 'dread game' with another human being, whether it's wife or cousin, is similar.
It involves manipulating events to achieve a desired outcome.
So if I see my wife reading all the time, and having no sex, instead of telling her "you should stop reading" "you're absent", etc etc, I could bring her a spicy romance novel and that would change the outcome.
This is just an example.
Another way of thinking about this:

As a man, it's vital to develop and maintain Sang Froid


If you act like this


Neither men nor women will respect you, and the latter sure as hell won't find you desirable


"Never Let 'Em See You Sweat" IS a trait that doesn't come naturally to most fellas, and one which we do have to develop within ourselves, this is true. We just currently live in an era where doing so is considered "fake", while having a f-cking meltdown the minute anything we find disagreeable occurs, is mistaken for "being more real"
 
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