"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The "Minimalist Approach" to approaching women

Poon King

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Just wondering if any other men have tried this for their cold approaching. When I used to do a lot of cold approaching.. this was my method because I'm generally not a talker. I don't have the "gift of gab" for small talk and never did. I'm either being frank or I'm not talking.

This was a challenge when I decided to start cold approaches because I was never on board with DHV stories and other types of PUA azz kissing / auditioning for women.

My approach was to walk up to a girl, tell her she is cute, ask her maybe 2 or 3 questions.. then close. This would usually take about a minute or two. No long conversations. And it worked on many women too. And I got dates/lays.

I'm thinking of getting back into it (which is one reason I joined this forum) and maybe taking it even more extreme to where I just approach, give a compliment and ask for a date right away. But I was wondering if any other guys here have tried anything like this.

Btw.. I've found women respond to "cute/pretty" better than any other compliment for cold approaches.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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RangerMIke

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Well. When you first meet a women, what you actually say is not as important as your body language and how you look. So not saying a whole lot doesn't really matter. If you approach with confidence, then not saying a whole lot and getting a number works.
 

Starwolf

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This looks like something i can try.. I have not tried cold approaches yet mostly because of fear of not having stuff to talk about.

Would you recommend this for a cold approach newbie?
can you give an exact real life example of how you would approach?

for example
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her:
you:
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This is how I started with cold approaches on hot girls. It usually gave me really positive reactions/stunned looks. While it obviously made an impression, they always wanted to get me talking and I could not pull with only minimal conversation. You have to give just enough to spark intrigue, balls by themselves are not enough. YMMV if you're very physically attractive, I would assume.
 
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