"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The "Minimalist Approach" to approaching women

Poon King

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Just wondering if any other men have tried this for their cold approaching. When I used to do a lot of cold approaching.. this was my method because I'm generally not a talker. I don't have the "gift of gab" for small talk and never did. I'm either being frank or I'm not talking.

This was a challenge when I decided to start cold approaches because I was never on board with DHV stories and other types of PUA azz kissing / auditioning for women.

My approach was to walk up to a girl, tell her she is cute, ask her maybe 2 or 3 questions.. then close. This would usually take about a minute or two. No long conversations. And it worked on many women too. And I got dates/lays.

I'm thinking of getting back into it (which is one reason I joined this forum) and maybe taking it even more extreme to where I just approach, give a compliment and ask for a date right away. But I was wondering if any other guys here have tried anything like this.

Btw.. I've found women respond to "cute/pretty" better than any other compliment for cold approaches.
 

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RangerMIke

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Well. When you first meet a women, what you actually say is not as important as your body language and how you look. So not saying a whole lot doesn't really matter. If you approach with confidence, then not saying a whole lot and getting a number works.
 

Starwolf

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This looks like something i can try.. I have not tried cold approaches yet mostly because of fear of not having stuff to talk about.

Would you recommend this for a cold approach newbie?
can you give an exact real life example of how you would approach?

for example
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This is how I started with cold approaches on hot girls. It usually gave me really positive reactions/stunned looks. While it obviously made an impression, they always wanted to get me talking and I could not pull with only minimal conversation. You have to give just enough to spark intrigue, balls by themselves are not enough. YMMV if you're very physically attractive, I would assume.
 
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