"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The meaning of "..."

DonJuanabe

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My understanding is that use of ellipses (...) is to imply suggestion, a positive affirmation of sorts. For example, a girl replies "Maybe we should hang out some time..." meaning she is open to dating you or considering it.

A friend of mine was LJBFed by a girl he had been seeing for a few weeks. He doesn't label it dating because they didn't have sex. Weird thing is that, according to him, she was obviously willing to f*** on their second date but he didn't bite because he wanted to show control and wait until the third date, at which time she got flaky and wouldn't f*** and a week later they were done after he got tired of the BS about developing a strong friendship first. Two weeks later when he called to invite her to something she accepted and then gave him the LJBF line and told him she was never attracted to him in the first place and was only trying to force herself to feel attraction and wasn't going to do that anymore. He responded by going with the flow, making light of the situation, and continuing on like nothing had happened, saying the invitation was still hers since he had already asked her to go and she accepted and switched to completely different topics like you would when shooting the sh*t with your friends. Apparently, at least according to him, he came across as though he didn't care whatsoever and acted like they had been best friends for years despite knowing each other only a month. She said okay but if he felt like asking someone else that would be fine. After going no contact for a week he texted her some details about the itinerary and requested some information he needed to finalize their attendance. She provided the information and replied that she would like to do one of the activities at the event, ending that sentence (and text) with "..."

Why end with "..." unless she is hinting that she is reconsidering her move to LJBF him?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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That's way too in-depth and weighing of needing to know to be about a friend.

This is you, right?

I would say she's reconsidering you yeah, so don't screw it up by trying to be a gent. Tap it!
 

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Make the ho say no, its one of the best rule to avoid the friendzone.

You make a move, you either succeed or she says no and you know that your princess is in an other castle.

The whole gentlemen wait paradigm is simply a big lie that allow girls to get the best out of guys while not giving them anything in return.
If b1tch like guy, b1tch spread her legs, she doesnt make him wait nor she does wait.
 

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Nah, but I've seen that what I and my friends experience in real life comports well with what is discussed here, so I like to study both worlds. Women's behavior, in general, is the same everywhere you go. If I had to guess I'm sure I'll deal with something someone on this forum brought up even if I've never dealt with it before - it's just a matter of time.
 

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stop thinking so much, this shouldn't be a question
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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