The man asking to be Exclusive. Good/Bad?

[spiegel549]

I understand the importance of having the woman ask YOU what are we/were is this going? You want to make sure she is 100% into you, and she plans on being with just you. By you asking, you might never get the true answers you wanted to know.

How can you indirectly ask a woman how she feels her about just dating each other?

If you are comfortable with one another to have sex raw dog, is there anything wrong with just being straight up like "hey were sleeping together a lot now un protected, I wanna make sure were being safe and not including 3rd parties in between us banging."

I am in a situation now were I am having amazing sex with this girl and we have been going on great dates and connecting extremly well. I dont need to be officially dating her yet but I want to make sure there isnt some other dude raw hitting it and then I roll in to catch his ****.

How can I bring it up casually with out dropping the ball?

 

[betheman]

how would you respond if you found out she was rawdogging one, two more other guys? who are probably rawdogging with other women etc etc?

you have a valid concern but how you broach it is a potential land mine.

personally id be quite matter of fact about it and tell her you dont want to be risking your health and while you really enjoy what you two have, you need to know that she isnt going to put either of you at risk. that seems a bit robotic and she may be a bit insulted, so have a backup plan, i.e. "we have been going on great dates and connecting extremly well..."
I dont think this is unreasonable and if she reacts in a sh!tty way..you pretty much have a clue about what the actual deal is

 

[Fatal Jay]

Apart from the sex

I'm with the op, is it okay for the guy to ask, cause I have girls asked me in the past, I agreed,and they all fall through

But when I ask, seems like that gives the woman an edge

 

[backbreaker]

1. technically there are situations when it's okay for a guy to ask. but a guy should never, ever, under any circumstances be the first to bring it up. you can ask a girl to be your girlfriend but only after she has made it extremely clear she wants you to herself by telling you, i want to date you


2. if you are thinking about asking the girl in the other thread, after i ****ing told you verbatim what the **** not to do lol, i will kill you. and i don't mean that in a figuratively state, i will concoct a potion, put it in your food, and watch you die a slow and horrible death.


it's post like this why i seriously do not like wasting my time on the regular forum, beucase no matter what you do you are pissing against the wind. no offense OP. i like to deal with people who are in a position to really do some **** differently and don't want to hold on to old ideas.

 

[Daily Insanity]

2. if you are thinking about asking the girl in the other thread, after i ****ing told you verbatim what the **** not to do lol, i will kill you. and i don't mean that in a figuratively state, i will concoct a potion, put it in your food, and watch you die a slow and horrible death.

Jesus man... gruesome lol

 

[marmel75]

Ya, I'd avoid castrating yourself to this girl...just my opiniin

 

[spiegel549]

Backbreaker This is a DIFFERENT girl I have been dating before the girl you helped me turn around! lol. Bro you helped me pull off something that was mind blowing and with that other chick I AM STICKING TO THE PLAN AND DOING EVERYTHING YOU SAID! I am in way too good of a position to do the opposite of what you said. BTW bro did you read my recent update on the other post? Iv been waiting to hear what you thought about my Tuesday night experience with her.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=199630&page=3

Above link is great guidance BTW guys I would check out my other post that BB helped me turn around. It was an odd situation and so far I have turned around to really reap the benefits.


This post is a different broad, we have been dating about 4 months, she is older, we have been raw hitting it a lot. I just want to be safe. I can see by all your responses my best bet is to zip my mouth. Seems like I might as well hand her over my balls in her purse if I say anything before SHE does..

We agree on that?

 

[backbreaker]

never ask a girl to be excusive. you can confirm you will be by asking a girl to date you who has made it clear she wants to be exlusive

 

[Scars]

Good if you enjoy completely losing the frame.

-Scars

 

[betheman]

OP want to be exclusive, thins this might be going somewhere, told not to touch the subject....why not just go after what the fucck you want? just protect yourself

 

[\O/]

Never do it.

And stop hitting it raw. Insist on bagging it. This will make her wonder and if she really wants exclusivity with you, SHE will take it up as an issue at this point.

 

[BabyFaceComplex]

Never do it.

And stop hitting it raw. Insist on bagging it. This will make her wonder and if she really wants exclusivity with you, SHE will take it up as an issue at this point.

Having a condom in your wallet or car can also be an issue.

If you wanna run relationship game you should make a trip to the store even if she insists.

I think its the guys job to ask a girl out, women are too insecure to do this.

 

[spiegel549]

At the end of the day I want to protect myself. Especially if you aren't exclusive who knows who else she is banging raw.

I slept with her the past 3 times with no condom, its hard because 2 times were in her hot tub...and another time was in my car. **** just gets heated up and we went at it. It is SUCH a mood killer to go hold on! Get out the condom etc..but once again I always wrap it until I get to know a broad for a while.

This may sound like a stupid question but could it work to my advantage to start wrapping it again? Obviously its being more safe but I mean in a way would it get her to start thinking to herself like "why is he insisting on wearing one again..??"

Would that trigger something in her mind to my advantage?

 

[nismo-4]

This is an awesome way to give up your power!

The relationship card that men hold has fine print on it. It reads "Useless unless the woman in question chooses you!" Judge nismo's verdict.

Case closed. Get out of my court.

 

[Sofomore]

Well, I think you guys are wrong.

Sometimes it's ok. You just have to tell her. If you are hanging out a lot, and it's pretty much assumed, then its fine. I didn't "lose frame" or any other bullsh!t PUA stuff.

I told my last girlfriend that I dated for 2 years "hey, you're my girl", she smiled and said "of course".

She wasn't the type to bring it up, so I had to do it. Don't listen to the guys that say "bro shes getting pounded by 4 guys while you sit here wondering." These are just jaded SS members that probably haven't had real loving relationships, so they are jaded. They get all mechanical and go "by the book".

 

[backbreaker]

Well, I think you guys are wrong.

Sometimes it's ok. You just have to tell her. If you are hanging out a lot, and it's pretty much assumed, then its fine. I didn't "lose frame" or any other bullsh!t PUA stuff.

I told my last girlfriend that I dated for 2 years "hey, you're my girl", she smiled and said "of course".

She wasn't the type to bring it up, so I had to do it. Don't listen to the guys that say "bro shes getting pounded by 4 guys while you sit here wondering." These are just jaded SS members that probably haven't had real loving relationships, so they are jaded. They get all mechanical and go "by the book".

shut the **** up.

i'm sick and ****ing tired of *****es coming on this ****ing forum and because they had 1 ****ing good relationship they act like the entire ****ing forum and all of the blogs on the ****ing internet are irrelevant beucse some ***** would sleep with you for a few months, for the simple reason that you happened to ask a ***** who liked you to date you.

you do more ****ing harm than all the MRM movement guys combined beucase you offer fake hope to the people who don't need to hear it. you got a guy who comes on this ****ing forum and he needs to be told the truth and he goes through 10 pages of truth and finds your bull**** post and proceeds to ignore every last ****ing thing, then we are the ones that have to sit here and deal with the 5 page calamity that ensues once his girl goes ATM to the guy she met at the bar (while she was supposed to be visiting her sister)


no one gives a **** about your pathetic ass and ypur pathetic ass 1 ****ing field case study that proves the entire site wrong. and yes i'm pissed off beucase you had the fukcing nerve to talk **** like everyone here is wrong and your ***** ass is 100% correct for the simple reason that you lucked out and asked a girl who liked you but jsut had not came out and said it. now every mother****er here is going to assume that their gilrs like them they just have not said it.. just.. just die. just kill yourself. take a sword, put it in your stomach and push hard.


it's like saying.. beucase i like snakes and once there was a snake in my front yard and i took a stick and picked it up and put it in a tank and kept it for about a year, that all snakes are harmless and meh **** what everyone says about snakes their cool bro. just... just ...

 

[bigneil]

Never ask for a commitment, and unprotected sex does not imply one. It implies she has unprotected sex with lots of men.

The best attitude is to say you'll never get married and let her try to convince you otherwise. Say you'll never have kids and get her to try and talk you into it. Meanwhile, if you say "Lets get married and have kids" she'll leave tracks every time.

One girl seemed to summarize it nicely as she described the guy from Fifty Shades of Gray as follows: "There is this younger girl who is with this older business guy and he's never been married... and he just wants her to be his sex slave, but she's in LOVE with him..." She later said "Girls want to WORK for it!" I took her advice and it's working.

 

[jonhaul]

dont do it as it will turn her off!

 

[Trump]

How can you indirectly ask a woman how she feels her about just dating each other?

If you are comfortable with one another to have sex raw dog, is there anything wrong with just being straight up like "hey were sleeping together a lot now un protected, I wanna make sure were being safe and not including 3rd parties in between us banging."

I am in a situation now were I am having amazing sex with this girl and we have been going on great dates and connecting extremly well. I dont need to be officially dating her yet but I want to make sure there isnt some other dude raw hitting it and then I roll in to catch his ****.

How can I bring it up casually with out dropping the ball?

She doesn't care there isn't some there girl you are raw hitting it and then she rolls in to catches her disease.

Granted, you are speaking about health, but its weird she doesn't care.

 

[betheman]

shut the **** up.

i'm sick and ****ing tired of *****es coming on this ****ing forum and because they had 1 ****ing good relationship they act like the entire ****ing forum and all of the blogs on the ****ing internet are irrelevant beucse some ***** would sleep with you for a few months, for the simple reason that you happened to ask a ***** who liked you to date you.

you do more ****ing harm than all the MRM movement guys combined beucase you offer fake hope to the people who don't need to hear it. you got a guy who comes on this ****ing forum and he needs to be told the truth and he goes through 10 pages of truth and finds your bull**** post and proceeds to ignore every last ****ing thing, then we are the ones that have to sit here and deal with the 5 page calamity that ensues once his girl goes ATM to the guy she met at the bar (while she was supposed to be visiting her sister)


no one gives a **** about your pathetic ass and ypur pathetic ass 1 ****ing field case study that proves the entire site wrong. and yes i'm pissed off beucase you had the fukcing nerve to talk **** like everyone here is wrong and your ***** ass is 100% correct for the simple reason that you lucked out and asked a girl who liked you but jsut had not came out and said it. now every mother****er here is going to assume that their gilrs like them they just have not said it.. just.. just die. just kill yourself. take a sword, put it in your stomach and push hard.


it's like saying.. beucase i like snakes and once there was a snake in my front yard and i took a stick and picked it up and put it in a tank and kept it for about a year, that all snakes are harmless and meh **** what everyone says about snakes their cool bro. just... just ...

get the f ccuk over yourself, your losing the plot judging by some of your recent posts