"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Looker Wants Me To Go After Her Friend

Renault

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So I met a couple of 30-somethings this weekend at a bar/restaurant who are actually younger than me.

I wasn't gonna ask for their number myself as I didn't think we had talked long enough to establish attraction. However, upon leaving, the good looking girl asks for my card. I didn't have any so she took out her own card and also wrote her friend's number on there.

I texted the looker but got the "I've already got plans" when I suggested a meetup. Then she suggested that I text her friend as "she's really fun, blah blah."

I'm not at all interested in her friend as she's a complete dog. However, I'm new in town and wouldn't mind turning them into friends. I've already suggested we all get together some day and the looker liked the idea.

How do I handle this situation to turn them both into friends so I can possibly meet their other friends later on down the road? And what type of activity is best for this strategy?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She blew you off and her friend is a mutt.

How is this even a question? Just ignore her and find more women.
 

dude99

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So I met a couple of 30-somethings this weekend at a bar/restaurant who are actually younger than me.

I wasn't gonna ask for their number myself as I didn't think we had talked long enough to establish attraction. However, upon leaving, the good looking girl asks for my card. I didn't have any so she took out her own card and also wrote her friend's number on there.

I texted the looker but got the "I've already got plans" when I suggested a meetup. Then she suggested that I text her friend as "she's really fun, blah blah."

I'm not at all interested in her friend as she's a complete dog. However, I'm new in town and wouldn't mind turning them into friends. I've already suggested we all get together some day and the looker liked the idea.

How do I handle this situation to turn them both into friends so I can possibly meet their other friends later on down the road? And what type of activity is best for this strategy?
Dude, chicks are naturally competetive and catty to eachother. Any time a chick gives you her friends number, she can't express any deeper how un-interested in you she is.

If you want ro keep being friends, sounds like the hot one has already friend zoned you. You're friends.
 

kenpiffyjr

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What are you two guys doing?

@Renault don't listen to them.

Am I the only one reading this understanding the confidence and abundance of this guy? He gets it. He understands that he was turned down and he ate it like a man and asked about what he can do to use these women to get other women!

@Renault its happened to me before. I would say next time you are planning on going to the bars...take a plate with you and let these women know you'll be hanging at a bar with a female friend and they should come and bring their friends to take some shots with you two. If they come they come...and you'll use them in some pre selection strategy. If they don't, they don't...who cares.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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zekko

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This is a win/win for the attractive girl. She pawns the OP on her unattractive friend, her friend gets a date so they can all go out and have fun, and the attractive girl gets the validation of having him around knowing that he'd prefer to have her.
 

The Duke

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If you really want them as friends like you stated, then ask them both to meet you out for drinks/top golf/bowling/concert/whatever sometime. No big deal, nothing special needed.

I wonder if the hot girl was trying to help her ugly friend out?
 

Who Dares Win

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Happened to me a couple of times, I approach 2 girls of different score and the hot ones tries to set me with her friend.

She is basically communicating that she doesnt have any interest in me and second that she doesnt even consider me a man good enough to get any better than her friend.

The fact that she is openly and directly trying to set me even signal that she believes Im not even that worth in personality.

Surely not the best base to establish any friendship, even using them to get to new people will be a failure cause you surely dont get introduced in the best way, think or a reverse social proof.
 
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