"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The last week

Awkward

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Ok, last year I was a real major geak in the class. I didn't care for my body or my socializing a bit. My conficence had sunken through the floor down in the basement, and i was shy as hell, as I didn't dare to SPEAK to a girl.

This year however I changed class. A week before the school started I found this gold mine of advice and thought "I'm the f*cking king of the world" when I read it. Not only did I lack confidence and respect to myself, I had the worst "nice guy"-attitude thought possible. So I decided to change.


The day before school started I went out to buy clothes, shaving stuff, shoes, aftershave, cologne, hairstyling-things and all what a man can need. I also started doing some training with weights.

I went to school with the new "I'm the f*cking king of the world"-attitud and clothes I felt very sexy in. The first day, I looked people in the eye and smiled instead of carefully study the lines in the floor like I used to do. Hey, the confidence boiled in me, I felt stronger and more bad-ass than never before. I held my head high and showed who was the man. I dared to speak in public, with people I had never seen before. Yes I used to be SUPER-SHY, and started to blush when spoken to.

The next day I had talked with almost every person in the class and I was actually the only one confident enough to approach people in there. Now I know almost everyone in there, and I am not the best friend with all the geeks any longer, I have realized that they only tie you down and follow you around, allthough they are nice to be with.

Tomorrow I will ask a girl out that I really like, if she don't like me I will not sit down and feel sorry for myself, it's her loss and there will be lots other girls that will fight for me, I hope


Well, thats my story of the last week. It may not sound but much, but I have never felt better in my entire life, for once in my life I really like myself, and enjoy living. =D

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"'Nobody is perfect' says the general rule 'There are always an exception to every rule, and I am the proof of that statement. In other words, I'm f*cking perfect.' :)"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tome4

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Yep, confidence does that for ya.

Funny thing in the beggining I also had to dress good to feel that much confident (when wasn't groomed and all I felt some less confident and more shy), and now even when I dress slopy, don't shave or comb my hair I get looked at by hot girls.It is in my blod now, and that is the next step you will take my friend.

Just be carefull, coz you will always go 2 steps forward, 1 step back.
Don't let that step back stop you for a long time, as it did me...
 

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Funny thing in the beggining I also had to dress good to feel that much confident (when wasn't groomed and all I felt some less confident and more shy), and now even when I dress slopy, don't shave or comb my hair I get looked at by hot girls.It is in my blod now, and that is the next step you will take my friend.

Just be carefull, coz you will always go 2 steps forward, 1 step back.
Don't let that step back stop you for a long time, as it did me...
Can't wait with that


Thanks for the warning, I know what you talk about from the experience of learning guitar, very the same. Perseverance!

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"'Nobody is perfect' says the general rule 'There are always an exception to every rule, and I am the proof of that statement. In other words, I'm f*cking perfect.' :)"
 
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