"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The labels we give ourselves

Alpine

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A recent newbie has prompted this post, however it's something I've been meaning to get off my chest for a while.

I think anyone who has been here a while has heard about not labelling yourself, putting yourself in a pigeonhole etc. And how at some level other people judge us by our own estimation of ourselves.

Now, it always tickles me, and perhaps an indication of the current state of mind, that people sign up with user names like.

Hopelessman, losercentral, Iwanttodienow, pvssyless.

And of course you get the other end of the ego spectrum-

TheKING, pvssymagnet i'mtheprize.

I guess the point I'm making, especially to those in the former category is from day to day, are you going around wearing your designer label on the outside saying 'I'm no good and you can take my word for it'

The significance of your estimation of yourself has a much wider impact on your interaction with others than you could ever imagine.

When people come to me for a job and they say they are hard working, bright, top earners and good with people I think, 'Maybe, let's get some evidence'

When someone says to me they are average, not very good at something or down right lazy, I BELIEVE them'

Start labelling yourself in a positive manner and back it up with some tangible action. For starters, let's see some of those neg. user names consigned to the trash bin, you are better than that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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penguin

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Good point. Be confident about yourself..... i'd say my username is quite neutral :)
 

sfalexi

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My user name is an acronym attached to my name.

My nickname in High school was "Sexy Flexi Alexi". On the sense that (A) they rhyme and (B) I've always been in good shape. So I shorten it to "sfalexi".

Alexi
 
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